Have you ever heard of Highly Sensitive People (HSP's)?
I wonder if I may be one....Alanis Morissette is another example.
HSP's can often feel overstimulated because they feel everything around them, can tune into microexpressions and data others don't, and can have a rich internal life.
Many parents don't know how to handle or parent them, and go way overboard punishing them.
Additionally, because HSP's can see things others can't, they may know that that nice person is really cruel underneath, etc. They may point this out to others, only to be shooed away....Other people eventually find out the HSP was right all along.
Another few things that really strike a cord with me:
- They often job hop because they feel that others don't understand them. I don't job hop, but I do often feel alienated, even as I try to fit in/be an approachable loner.
- They sometimes create a narrative that perhaps "should not" be a narrative, because they notice patterns others don't. When I say these things should not be narratives~the narratives are completely valid and insightful, but other people can forgive and forget more easily because they have not NOTICED those patterns or created those narratives.
- Such narratives, insights, and deep observations can turn to anger and severe disappointment or depression and desperation when no one seems to be listening.
- There needs to be at least SOME positive feedback, or they will link all the negative things, taking them as facts against themselves. If enough people tell them the same things, it must be irrefutable..because it is a narrative.
- This last one makes a ton of sense bc I am INFJ, an ambivert, and my love language is words of encouragement. I also love the written word and writing myself.
Can you relate/see this in me, if you know me?
HSP's can often feel overstimulated because they feel everything around them, can tune into microexpressions and data others don't, and can have a rich internal life.
Many parents don't know how to handle or parent them, and go way overboard punishing them.
Additionally, because HSP's can see things others can't, they may know that that nice person is really cruel underneath, etc. They may point this out to others, only to be shooed away....Other people eventually find out the HSP was right all along.
Another few things that really strike a cord with me:
- They often job hop because they feel that others don't understand them. I don't job hop, but I do often feel alienated, even as I try to fit in/be an approachable loner.
- They sometimes create a narrative that perhaps "should not" be a narrative, because they notice patterns others don't. When I say these things should not be narratives~the narratives are completely valid and insightful, but other people can forgive and forget more easily because they have not NOTICED those patterns or created those narratives.
- Such narratives, insights, and deep observations can turn to anger and severe disappointment or depression and desperation when no one seems to be listening.
- There needs to be at least SOME positive feedback, or they will link all the negative things, taking them as facts against themselves. If enough people tell them the same things, it must be irrefutable..because it is a narrative.
- This last one makes a ton of sense bc I am INFJ, an ambivert, and my love language is words of encouragement. I also love the written word and writing myself.
Can you relate/see this in me, if you know me?
41-45, F
