Do You Really Need This?

We are to forgive 70x7 times regardless of if someone apologizes or not. How can Jesus forgive us for our sins if we don't forgive others after all Jesus has done for us. But it is healing to hear "I'm sorry" And when we say 'sorry' and someone doesn't forgive us it is very hurtful. But we have to remember that God says "mine is the vengeance" so we should not be retaliating. Jesus is coming to judge each person, reward us for following him, and being obedient to his words, or casting us into everlasting judgment.

like many have already said forgiveness is about freeing yourself from the heavy burden of anger and resentfulness . as for the other person, saying "I'm sorry" seems to be a self-serving action directed at ending their feeling of guilt and and being loved once more. what I find even more insignificant is when people insist on how bad they feel !! as if them feeling bad is suposed to be some kind of comfort to me, as if i'm some evil-hearted person who will answer " good, it brings me great satidfaction that you are feeling bad". I say instead of saying sorry or describing how bad you feel how about doing something to repair the situation. I often joke and say "instead of telling me you feel bad, do something that will actually be useful for me to feel good, like give me money or something 🤣😂"

Someone gave me valuable advice when I was struggling with this, “The person who caused the wound won’t be the one who heals you. They can;t. If that were the case the wound wouldn’t have happened in the first place”

I think sometimes people forget that you don't need someone else to give you closure for you to move on. Sometimes you also won't be able to get it, so it's best to find ways to give yourself closure. Write a letter you never send explaining all the things you want to say, whatever it is. So no, I don't think it's really needed because you will also seldom get it when you really want one

They’ve said sorry plenty of times but their behaviour will never change. Distance and time over “sorry” for me. Then I might feel that they’re truly sorry and it might help.

No I don't need their sorry. That would make my beholden to their apology that may never come or may come in a way I cannot accept.
My healing has to be regardless of their actions. At that point I would be detached and see their actions as impersonal to me, and my hurt is what I need to focus on.

It's a good thing, but forgiving them so *you* don't have something fester is important for *you*, and tangential to whether or not they ever say they are sorry.

Unfortunately this doesn't happen. I can say sorry but someone I loved who doesn't even care it would never make a difference.

I am sorry doesnt mean anything, better not to say anything than that

No. I learned I have to forgive and find closure within myself.

Not at all. It seamed to always be my fault. Gosh i love my freedom.