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Everyone's already got your other points so I can say- church groups aren't supposed to meet YOUR needs.

It's about coming together as a family in Christ- the church group ofcourse should be biblically based.
@iamnikki That sounds fantastic, well done!
iamnikki31-35, F
@BritishFailedAesthetic mind if i inbox?
@iamnikki No worries, go ahead!

robertsnj56-60, M
what needs did you have from the church? what are your hobbies / interests? that is a good place find a support strucutre. sorry you are hurting
iamnikki31-35, F
@robertsnj [quote]what needs did you have from the church?[/quote] support. They have these groups called "life groups", but we don't see each other outside of the once a week zoom meetings. How is that a [b]life[/b] group?
I like to skate, I like all kinds of festivals, museums, I do a dance workout class several times a week (Initially once a week)
robertsnj56-60, M
@iamnikki oh wow you are active and that is a lot to work with ! So you may have to look for a church that has more social activity / I apologize what faith are we talking about? find a church group that does museums / and if not dance class in church join lifetime fitness YMCA or somethng........You are well on your way to finding fun and social activity! I hope you are feeilng better. You have a lot to work with being so active . This is a hiccup and you will move past it. Oh and you are awesome Nikki 馃槑
iamnikki31-35, F
@robertsnj I have found a church that I plan to visit in person on Sunday. If I like it, I will be sure to get contact information of group leaders. They have outings once a month per the website.
DreamyCrushF
You have to do what's best for you. Anything that causes you anxiety, fear, or stress can negatively affect your health and should be removed.

Positive vibes only.
Musicman61-69, M
How are your parents fake? Is there anywhere you have ever been happy?
iamnikki31-35, F
@Musicman I don't think I've really ever been happy.
I try to go somewhere every weekend. Sometimes I send my parents photos of events that I attend, since I am the only one of their children who lives alone...just so they have an update of my life if that makes sense. Sometimes my dad will say " you could have went to XYZ place on the weekend and I would have come". (he said that last week) So, this past Thursday, i stated I was going to XYZ festival on the weekend, FREE event. He said "maybe". The day of came, and he said absolutely nothing. I sent photos of the event. Again, he said absolutely nothing in response.

This happens all the time. He acts jealous when me and my mom board a plane and go somewhere, yet when he is asked to go somewhere it's always "maybe, I'll see, I don't know right now".

Mom flip flops, you can't tell her how you feel without her getting mad. She says she loves you but will go weeks without talking to you, after you've told her how you feel about something.

FAKE FAKE FAKE
Musicman61-69, M
@iamnikki I am so sorry to hear this. 馃槩馃槩馃槩
RenFur70-79, M
Your well thought out plan sounds like you mean business. Good luck to you, Nikki 馃憤
Lisafriend2731-35, F
Try to just keep working on yourself and that might help you feel better.
Jeephikelove46-50, F
Good for you!! 馃憦馃憦馃憦馃憦馃憦馃憦馃憦馃憦 most freeing decision. 鈽猴笍
QueenandCrown41-45, F
Check around, there are many religious/spiritual gatherings that may can fit your needs better...

Not all families are blood related and sometimes you have to create your own...

Jobs are everywhere, but you must know where is you want to go
iamnikki31-35, F
@QueenandCrown Yea I've been looking for new churches. Creating a list. I have one that I plan to visit Sunday. I see online they do outings once a month. My current group does nothing but zoom once a week.

Yes, just need to find decent people. It's been difficult.
QueenandCrown41-45, F
@iamnikki Check with meetup in your area, they have different groups of like minded people you can meet
iamnikki31-35, F
@QueenandCrown I"ve tried that several times. Even went way out of my comfort zone and started my own group;covid messed up my progress. A couple years after covid, i tried again and no one would come to anything. I've joined a few groups that I am interest in but they have events every few months or so.
I reached out to the organizer of one to ask if any events were coming up.
She wrote to me what seemed like a "nice-nasty" message. Something along the lines of "I am busy in my personal life and have alot to do so I do meetup when I have time. Yes there will be more events [b]and please note that I am not accepting a co-organizer,[/b] hope to meet you soon". The part in bold was verbatim.
So yea, I'm done with it.
MasterLee56-60, M
Church is just a guilt trip
mooncrest0231-35, F
I'm sorry you feel this way, are you sure you need to cut everything out, is there nothing you can influence to change? Its just a thought but do whats best for you regardless.鈾ワ笍
iamnikki31-35, F
@mooncrest02 I hate the way I feel in the moments leading up to the church group meeting, even though it is online. I don't like some of the things the leader say and how she runs the group. No one in the group see's or hangs out outside the group. It's not very helpful.

I don't like the way I feel in the moments leading up to and during family gatherings either so I think I should stay away from them.
Zonuss41-45, M
Please do.
Some people are a waste of time and energy.
iamnikki31-35, F
@Zonuss Yep, even if they are immediate blood relatives

 
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