I'm learning how to give up on things that no longer serve me

This church group I'm in makes me upset and does not meet my needs.

I've never been happy with any job I've had. I've always stayed at them too long, causing SO much stress, and anxiety.

My immediate family (mom, dad, siblings) are fake and 90% of our gatherings seem inauthentic. Actions speak a lot louder than words.

I'm no longer going to ignore my feelings.
I'm no longer going to persevere through a job that leaves me feeling drained and terrible about the job and myself because how I'm treated.

Hate that I have no one to turn to but, I'll survive

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BritishFailedAesthetic · M

Everyone's already got your other points so I can say- church groups aren't supposed to meet YOUR needs.

It's about coming together as a family in Christ- the church group ofcourse should be biblically based.

iamnikki · 31-35, F

@BritishFailedAesthetic [quote]church groups aren't supposed to meet YOUR needs.[/quote]
Care to expand on this?

I know that we are supposed to help other people but , I need help too

BritishFailedAesthetic · M

@iamnikki You bet! It's about fellowshiping with others and glorifying God!

Growing in your relationship with God, will help you.

iamnikki · 31-35, F

@BritishFailedAesthetic but in the one hour that we have the zoom group, the facilitation does 90% of the talking, then asks a question and tells us "yall are too quiet, I want to hear from yall!". Well If you stop talking, maybe I can answer.
It's not much fellowshipping going on when you have one person (facilitator) dominating the entre situation.
I said some of how I feel the other day actually. She asked a question then asked us to share with the group, with was facilitator, myself and one other person. (Other people will join and never return, wonder why). I said I don't like sharing alot because people aren't helpful, therapy isn't' helpful, so I don't like sharing much.

BritishFailedAesthetic · M

@iamnikki Ok, how about going out (rather than on zoom) to a bible based church in your area and attending the Bible study.

There will be fellowship afterwards so you will meet new people and get to improve your interpersonal skills.

iamnikki · 31-35, F

@BritishFailedAesthetic yep, I've found one that I plan to attend Sunday. They have monthly outings.

BritishFailedAesthetic · M

@iamnikki That sounds fantastic, well done!

iamnikki · 31-35, F

@BritishFailedAesthetic mind if i inbox?

BritishFailedAesthetic · M

@iamnikki No worries, go ahead!