I'm lonely

@GeniUs Clubs are good. I guess my biggest issue is really opening up and getting over my insecurities and junk

@GeniUs No shade or offense to you intended, but a club really isn't helpful; it's just something generic and off-the-shelf to say. You see, the root cause problem isn't that we don't know where people congregate (like clubs); we do. But, we can't simple plop ourselves in venues like that to erase our problem.

Perhaps we're too sensitive, perhaps we don't have the social skills... there are a variety of factors that will be different for each individual. But, the commonality is that we can't connect with people easily. So, placing us in a crowded room really isn't going to accomplish anything. In fact, it may very well make things only worse.

@TexasDude Shy? I used to be but I'm kind of ugly so I had to get over it otherwise I'd still be a virgin. Best game plan; smile at people, play dumb some times, "I'm not really sure what I'm supposed to do here?" Is a great opener somewhere new, you'll soon get a feel if people are receptive. And the best way to talk to people especially if they're the opposite sex pick a neutral topic the weather, the scenery and if it goes ok introduce yourself after you've been talking a while.

@MarkPaul Good points

@MarkPaul Well you have to take the plunge because people won't come looking for you.

@GeniUs Yeah, yeah... we hear that all the time. But, again that's not helpful. It's like raising your hand in class with a specific question on a physics or calculus problem and the teacher telling you, "well just study harder." If you don't understand the underlying concept or you don't have the background to understand the underlying concept, studying harder is not going to achieve anything.

So, yeah... "you have to take the plunge" is kind of a statement of the obvious, but without the skills to deal with the outcome of "the plunge" taking the plunge is counterproductive.

@MarkPaul You're going to be lonely then. What do you want a wingman to do all the work for you? If you find one let us all know we could all use one of those.

@GeniUs You don't understand...

@MarkPaul i can identify with u ill.dm u