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I am such a lonely person

I see around me how people are connecting again and again and it seems I pass by lives without leaving any trace.. this makes me sad deeply. But I don't have the required energy and courage to be open with people, and not take things personally, not get hurt. So basically my interactions are like this, I am getting hurt and pulling back... to loneliness, my safety zone....

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SatyrService · M Best Comment

Do not be concerned, the others seem to make lots of Connections,quickly and easy.
Most of us are quite shallow, and will have no real meaning as these people pass each other like clouds in the sky. Patient with yourself, know that there are things about you that others will see in those that will see the real you? Those are whom you should be looking out to meet

being · 36-40, F

@SatyrService thank you ❤️

ABCDEF7 · M

Life is short, don't waste time. We learn by experiencing things. Don't run from it, face it, what maximum could happen? Believe in enjoying life, good or bad. But don't waste your life by passing time.

Never reject anybody in your life, because good people give us happiness, Bad people give us experience, Worst people give a lesson, and Best people give memories. All are essential in life.

"If you truly want to change your life, you must first be willing to change your mind." - Donald Altman(author of The mindfulness Code)

All the Best !

being · 36-40, F

@ABCDEF7 that's my mantra for December, to "face them all" .. yet sometimes it gets overwhelming and I am getting hurt and scared..

CrazyMusicLover · 31-35

Same. I really need to work on my self confidence and not get crushed and demotivated by criticism and rejection.

SW-User

@CrazyMusicLover yes 🙌

being · 36-40, F

@CrazyMusicLover yes...🤗 I need to do that too..it wasn't criticism or rejection though for me specifically yesterday, but the energy of three men that I found overwhelming. They came to visit my neighbour at the next hut/little home in nature I live for the moment.
I felt like I wanted some company so I went there to say hi ... and I got so scared and returned back to my hut... .. I lit then a little fire outside, it's like 100meters apart. Later on, they all came to me and sat with me, brought wood so we made a bigger fire, and we had a tea. It was nice.. But it's more complicated than that. It's like, they're the friends of someone else.
All the time I have been living here he's making friends and inviting people, while I am totally alone .. anyways thank you for listening and I am still on this. I'm fighting not to be closed but I become....

CrazyMusicLover · 31-35

@being Oh, if I find someone overwhelming I have to retreat too. But often when I do I feel immense relief when I'm alone. I know that sometimes I blow opportunities this way but I somehow feel in a couple of minutes I would be socially unusable anyway and only risk some embarrassing situations. The worst were college years and how I limited my education and potential professional connections this way.

Rambler · 61-69, M

we do get hurt, and pull back and heal...but we have to keep trying ..it is not easy

being · 36-40, F

@Rambler yes, thank you. ..🤗 I'll keep trying. .

wonkywinky · 51-55, M

its so easy to spend your life wondering why anyone ever hurt you,like didnt you realise how i felt,why did you behave that way?
in all my life ive always tried to not hurt anyone,yet im constantly hurt.
a relationship ended years ago and i know the reasons why were not the truth she told me,yet i can never get past why someone you love will hurt you.

WildBill25 · 26-30, M

I can relate..

Pfuzylogic · M

Personal boundaries keep interactions safe, so sorry to see it take so long to making reasonable interactions with others.

being · 36-40, F

@Pfuzylogic thank you... Yes my boundaries aren't so set..🤗

Pfuzylogic · M

@being That isn’t so bad as long as you are around people or an environment that you trust.

Ingwe · F

the more you experience the thicker your skin will become

being · 36-40, F

@Ingwe yeah but when? I'm 35 already.. this taking so long

Ingwe · F

@being I think it'll be like leather just before we die

being · 36-40, F

@Ingwe but I see others experiencing companionship a lot earlier..

wonkywinky · 51-55, M

all ive ever wanted in life is to meet someone for hugs.thats all i need.

being · 36-40, F

@wonkywinky yeah i can relate ❤️

NewLife95 · 26-30

I get that feeling a lot with a bunch of people sometimes too

being · 36-40, F

@NewLife95 yes...it happens... Sometimes we're tired or overwhelmed and it's hard to keep the perspective..

SimplyLogicalDiscipline · 36-40, F

It's okay, take your time. 🤗

being · 36-40, F

@SimplyLogicalDiscipline yes...the course of events yesterday did change after I wrote this.. and I had some company and a good night.. I am fighting with this..❤️