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Rickg · 31-35, M
Idk
Maybe because I’m introverted and can’t constantly dedicate my time and energy to other people
Maybe people take this as a sign I’m not interested at all
I’ve been selfish, felt like my friends weren’t the friends I deserved, and pushed them away. I sorely regret this, and it’s made me lonely as I’ve gotten older
With romantic relationships the same thing, I just fantasize about people I’m emotionally and physically attracted to, while ignoring potential parents that did not conform to some ideal
I have social anxiety, so I often am awkward in social situations, don’t use the right tones, make an appropriate amount of eye contact, little nervous ticks, make strange expressions facial expressions, I can’t express emotion that well so people have told me I seem disinterested
I have interests that don’t align with that of most people, so even finding something to talk about that’s not highly superficial is difficult
Sometimes i find it intimidating to contribute to conversations, because of how what I say might be judged
So I remain silent or give generic responses which I’m sure bores people to tears
A lot of it is my own doing
I’ve spent a lot of time looking back abs pondering about how I got where I am
@MrKindaFunny
Maybe because I’m introverted and can’t constantly dedicate my time and energy to other people
Maybe people take this as a sign I’m not interested at all
I’ve been selfish, felt like my friends weren’t the friends I deserved, and pushed them away. I sorely regret this, and it’s made me lonely as I’ve gotten older
With romantic relationships the same thing, I just fantasize about people I’m emotionally and physically attracted to, while ignoring potential parents that did not conform to some ideal
I have social anxiety, so I often am awkward in social situations, don’t use the right tones, make an appropriate amount of eye contact, little nervous ticks, make strange expressions facial expressions, I can’t express emotion that well so people have told me I seem disinterested
I have interests that don’t align with that of most people, so even finding something to talk about that’s not highly superficial is difficult
Sometimes i find it intimidating to contribute to conversations, because of how what I say might be judged
So I remain silent or give generic responses which I’m sure bores people to tears
A lot of it is my own doing
I’ve spent a lot of time looking back abs pondering about how I got where I am
@MrKindaFunny
MrKindaFunny · M
Jesus Christ @Rickg! You’re describing my life! How are we the same person? I’m a little confused and scared that we are the same person. Every single statement sentence you made I related with. Where do we go from here? What do we do? Do we, in knowing what we are and how we are, acknowledge that we will not likely change? and just try and hold on for dear life? Do we try to change and going forward try to latch onto new people? Is that likely to end well?
We need to work this out. I feel like we might be able to figure out a way forward?
I wonder if there’s any female us’ or if we are just a man thing?
I want to know how many other similarities we have. How many partners have you had? Are you overweight? Do you play music instruments? Do you/have you ever taken drugs?
We need to work this out. I feel like we might be able to figure out a way forward?
I wonder if there’s any female us’ or if we are just a man thing?
I want to know how many other similarities we have. How many partners have you had? Are you overweight? Do you play music instruments? Do you/have you ever taken drugs?
Rickg · 31-35, M
I’ve had one serious partner. I’m a little overweight. I dabbled at playing the piano but never learned it, I smoke weed occasionally, usually when I’m drinking @MrKindaFunny
MrKindaFunny · M
@Rickg 2 partners, little overweight, can poorly play piano and guitar, smoked weed and did other drugs as a child but T total now. Weird.
Rickg · 31-35, M
Well good for you on being sober and actually being able to play instruments @MrKindaFunny