I Am Lonely

Anyone else feel like marriage has been the loneliest time of their life? We have 4 incredible kids at home so I don’t feel like leaving is an option right now, but I miss feeling important to someone. Tomorrow is our 9 year anniversary and he doesn’t want to do anything. What sucks is I’m actually a pretty awesome person- endlessly selfless towards him, pretty great mom, entrepreneur, funny, intelligent... yet he can’t stop watching YouTube long enough to notice me. 🤦🏽‍♀️ Lonely, party of 1 🎉

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YaBaas · 36-40, M

I feel the same way. a couple months back was our 10th anniversary and we didn't have a party or advertise it on social media. what we found was that if we didn't make a fuss about it, no one including our parents and siblings remembered. It pretty much ended up being just another day and my other day couldn't wait long enough to go spend time with her friends rather than me. i have tried to share the youtube interest with her and it has helped or improved some social communication between us. Having kids is a blessing, i agree and i feel the same way that having two parents in the home makes things better for kids. Where do you draw the line though? when does your needs become a priority? This is the question i've been asking myself as i face reality that it will be another 12 years before my son is an adult. i can not imagine what its like to have four kids and feeling alone at the same time. i'm getting emotional just thinking about it. ❤️

krissychick · 36-40, F

Yeah I definitely want to put the kids needs first but have felt like I’m going crazy lately, thought maybe I would find some sanity online if there’s others going through this... 💙@YaBaas

YaBaas · 36-40, M

@krissychick I'm looking to strangers as well who are sharing the same pain. Counseling will only work if both parties are willing. Remember you are also an individual with your own needs. Careful not to become self destructive though.