I Am Lonely

Married for 10 years and been together for 12. My partner and I recently hit a rough patch when I confronted her about her infidelity, which I believe is still on going. During the long drives to work and back I found myself reflecting back on the last 12 years and realized that I changed. I became more introverted, isolated myself from friends and I no longer enjoy spending time with family (except my son of course).

I’ve realized that my self imposed isolation has left me “friend-less”, in the sense that actually have no one to chat to or have a drink with. This never bothered me before because I always loved going home and spending time with my family. The thing is my wife is becoming more estranged. When I get home she feels sick and spends all her time in the bedroom and over weekends she chooses to spend all her time with “friends’. The bonus though is I get to have quality time with my son.

I guess I’m writing this not to get sympathy but to rather share what might happen when you invest all your time in “we” and forget “I”. Marriage is about two individuals and I forgot that.

Moria810 · 56-60, F

I did the same thing after marriage, became introverted and estranged from my friends. Now I have no friends at all and my husband is more like a roommate. 😕

Roadsterrider · 56-60, M

@Moria810 I have the same situation with my wife, we don't talk, we don't do things together, we only have sex once every couple of months. I feel like a handyman that gets laid once in a while if I complain enough. I do have a few friends that I can talk to so I have some kind of outlet but it is difficult feeling alone even when she is sitting right there but still doesn't have time for me.