I Am Lonely
Married for 10 years and been together for 12. My partner and I recently hit a rough patch when I confronted her about her infidelity, which I believe is still on going. During the long drives to work and back I found myself reflecting back on the last 12 years and realized that I changed. I became more introverted, isolated myself from friends and I no longer enjoy spending time with family (except my son of course).
I’ve realized that my self imposed isolation has left me “friend-less”, in the sense that actually have no one to chat to or have a drink with. This never bothered me before because I always loved going home and spending time with my family. The thing is my wife is becoming more estranged. When I get home she feels sick and spends all her time in the bedroom and over weekends she chooses to spend all her time with “friends’. The bonus though is I get to have quality time with my son.
I guess I’m writing this not to get sympathy but to rather share what might happen when you invest all your time in “we” and forget “I”. Marriage is about two individuals and I forgot that.
I’ve realized that my self imposed isolation has left me “friend-less”, in the sense that actually have no one to chat to or have a drink with. This never bothered me before because I always loved going home and spending time with my family. The thing is my wife is becoming more estranged. When I get home she feels sick and spends all her time in the bedroom and over weekends she chooses to spend all her time with “friends’. The bonus though is I get to have quality time with my son.
I guess I’m writing this not to get sympathy but to rather share what might happen when you invest all your time in “we” and forget “I”. Marriage is about two individuals and I forgot that.
