I Am Lonely
Idk why I’m always feeling so lonely, all I do nowadays is just stay home, sleep, tired of pretending to be happy when I’m not.
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The problem is that people expect you to be happy being alone and if you tell them you're not, they'll treat you with cliche's such as,
"it's great being alone" (even though they're not),
"you need to learn to be alone because it's good for you" (even though they've never actually done it),
"you need to man up" (even if your a woman),
"just do nothing and the perfect person will magically appear",
or the worst one... "yes i'm alone too" said while they're talking to you and just before they go home to their partner or their kids etc. So from my perspective, I'm sorry that you are alone, it sucks and yes it makes you feel depressed and tired so sleeping more is a natural reaction.
Come on here and share your feelings anytime with us if you want.
"it's great being alone" (even though they're not),
"you need to learn to be alone because it's good for you" (even though they've never actually done it),
"you need to man up" (even if your a woman),
"just do nothing and the perfect person will magically appear",
or the worst one... "yes i'm alone too" said while they're talking to you and just before they go home to their partner or their kids etc. So from my perspective, I'm sorry that you are alone, it sucks and yes it makes you feel depressed and tired so sleeping more is a natural reaction.
Come on here and share your feelings anytime with us if you want.
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@Pianist1234 No actually I think saying that shows that you recognise they have a real issue and can empathise. Telling them it's great being alone when you are cuddling your partner just feels hypocritical from my own experience.
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@Jax316 Yes it could be that your not exactly lonely but missing out on some kind of emotional connection that you need.
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Guess that’s probably it, I just want to spend time with him but can’t with his 9yr old always around, I get it his children will always come first no matter what, just feel a bit bummed out I’m not able to see him as much, either he’s not that into me enough to actually come visit me or if it’s the cold weather and his son that’s stopping him. Guess, I will never know.
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@Jax316 Now i understand. I was once in a short term relationship with someone who had an 8 year old son. This was new to me but I really tried, but it became obvious that he was the most important person in her life and I would always come second. Then there was her ex who was always going to be his dad, so I really never felt like I fitted in, it was like I was more of a friend rather than a boyfriend in a relationship. Maybe this is just how it is when you're with a person who has kids? But since you mention feeling lonely, I did feel like that too in that situation.