I Am Sad and Lonely

Im divorced a year as of this month. I am living alone and lonely as hell. i have not been with another woman since I met my wife. I dont like me right now though I know that those who know me love me. i have depression and bipolar. not like the "flipping out" bipolar. just sad bipolar. i shouldnt be alone right now. i was not supposed to be. i am a normally funny, outgoing loving person, which is how the people who know me, describe me. im hoping someone will see this in me and get to know the real me. for now, i'll just talk to people and pray that somehow my life will change. im also a caring person and not only would I give someone the shirt off my back, but I'll put them on my back and carry them home. can anyone relate ?

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ElPhonse · M

thanks bro. i tried meet up but frankly, i cant get into the whole "single people meetup" at some club in the city where most of the crowd is in their twenties or early thirties and the men pay full price to get in and the ladies get in free, i cant stand the cover charges OR no cover and drinks are $15 each ! bottom line, maybe my wifes rejection has caused me to doubt myself. "who will want me ?" im an azzhole. or, "other women may see in me what she does". or worse, "what if she's right"? but thanks, i will google "Divorce Care". our kids are old and on their own but i am living alone.

ShadowSteel · M

@ElPhonse Normal , totally normal dude. You do not want a 20 yr old meetup. In Kansas City there is a 30 yrs and older meetup and I've seen men that are quite older there.

You also can't let the devil keep giving you excuses as to why you can't do this or why you can't do that. Pray to God and push that bastard away.

You know what is most important is that I firmly believe that the foundation of healing comes from God. Once you realize that God loves you and God is the foundation of your life the rest does not matter. Who cares if no one wants you or what women see in you. God loves you no matter what. God wants the most broken people, the most rejected people to put their eyes on him first. He will heal you. He doesn't want the best most perfect people because that is not how he works. He works with the broken and the most distraught.

To be honest - you are not in a place to be seeing other women right now. You need to go through that period of hell I went through, heck I am still going through it. Trying to figure that stuff out. DivorceCare group - definitely recommend.

Remember you are loved and God is beside you every step of the way.

ElPhonse · M

Thanks Blackito. Im a Christ believer too. i will definitely not be getting involved anywhere soon because i know im not ready. only God knows though, whats coming. God bless you brother.

ShadowSteel · M

@ElPhonse DivorceCare group. It will help -

https://www.divorcecare.org/findagroup

ShadowSteel · M

@ElPhonse If you need a workbook I can probably mail you one of mine.