Cool.. That stings a little, but okei
My "aunt" - or "my dads sister" as I usually call her. Posted about her birthday on fb, and how the "whole family was gathered" 🥹
I don't know why it still bothers me that I'm not considered family, but for some reason it does. why did she even add me on fb, when she hasn't said a word to me, not commented, no happy birthdays nothing - but she sees my stories.
I remember right before my dad passed away, he told me to call her to go dress-shopping for his wedding, he was so excited and wanted me to do that with my "aunt". He died a few months before their wedding. and I never heard from her after that - until she added me on fb.
I really shouldn't care this much, it shouldn't hurt this much. I'm used to being abandoned, it's nothing new, it's not shocking when people leave. But the whole family tho? I'm worth that little to them..
I wanted to comment "not the whole family", but that's not true, cause we're not family so yeah her whole family was probably there.
There's many times I've felt like I could've needed more family, or people in general to lean on for a moment, but I've gotten so good at leaning on myself that I don't even know how to accept support anymore.
Last time I saw a post like this, it was my cousin posting that they were cruising (the whole family) to celebrate my grandma, I just dm'd her to say happy birthday.. The last time I saw my grandparents they talked about me being more part of the family, to come to birthdays and so on - but I've never been invited, so I'm not sure how they expect that to happen? Like I should just feel it in my bones and show up?
I know I could probably "try harder", but honestly I feel like I've tried enough times, and at the end of the day I'm one person, they're a whole ass family that's been ignoring me ever since my dad passed. If any of his siblings would've died, he would be the one to reach out to their kids, he would treat them as his own. They haven't even sent me a text, or asked how I'm doing. I know that they talk about me tho (my grandparents said the whole family does), so they know every time I've been in the hospital, when I've been struggling, when I got married, and not a single word? ok.
It's okei.
I don't know why it still bothers me that I'm not considered family, but for some reason it does. why did she even add me on fb, when she hasn't said a word to me, not commented, no happy birthdays nothing - but she sees my stories.
I remember right before my dad passed away, he told me to call her to go dress-shopping for his wedding, he was so excited and wanted me to do that with my "aunt". He died a few months before their wedding. and I never heard from her after that - until she added me on fb.
I really shouldn't care this much, it shouldn't hurt this much. I'm used to being abandoned, it's nothing new, it's not shocking when people leave. But the whole family tho? I'm worth that little to them..
I wanted to comment "not the whole family", but that's not true, cause we're not family so yeah her whole family was probably there.
There's many times I've felt like I could've needed more family, or people in general to lean on for a moment, but I've gotten so good at leaning on myself that I don't even know how to accept support anymore.
Last time I saw a post like this, it was my cousin posting that they were cruising (the whole family) to celebrate my grandma, I just dm'd her to say happy birthday.. The last time I saw my grandparents they talked about me being more part of the family, to come to birthdays and so on - but I've never been invited, so I'm not sure how they expect that to happen? Like I should just feel it in my bones and show up?
I know I could probably "try harder", but honestly I feel like I've tried enough times, and at the end of the day I'm one person, they're a whole ass family that's been ignoring me ever since my dad passed. If any of his siblings would've died, he would be the one to reach out to their kids, he would treat them as his own. They haven't even sent me a text, or asked how I'm doing. I know that they talk about me tho (my grandparents said the whole family does), so they know every time I've been in the hospital, when I've been struggling, when I got married, and not a single word? ok.
It's okei.
