Have you ever truly forgiven a person?

Uuhmm, mostly yes. I think forgiving and forgiveness is a continual thing we have to do over and over because the memories come back.

Depends on the person & the grievence

yes in my life once upon a time a took brutal advantages of my situation and treated me more than mean and humiliating every possible way a person can even treat an animal , I feel helpless due to situation as I had to save my parents that time , every moment I was with him I determine myself to took the worst revenge against him , but situation changed later and when I meet him again after a gape of 6 months later I truly forgiven him by his situation

No. Not everyone deserves forgiveness. Forgiveness doesn't make anyone strong or weak. It's a personal choice.

forgiveness is not for the forgived, but the forgiver.

It's a weight off the shoulders of the forgiver, but the forgived is completely unaware...

Forgiving someone helps you move on with your life.
Forgetting is another story.

Yes

Always forgive. Not for their sake but for my own. Harboring negative feelings takes me away from my peace of mind.

There would always be a part that still hurts, even though I no longer expect that person to ask for my forgiveness.

Yes, if I say I forgive, then from that moment I forget about it!
I don't like complicated people with whom you never know what you are doing. The fact that they measure your every word, every move, it all stems from their insecurity!
Tiresome and boring!

Yes I have. But there needs to be a rebuilding of trust or I won’t ever trust them again. If they aren’t willing to do that then I won’t be involved with them. Might sound like holding grudges but it goes much deeper when trust is involved.

Forgave my Dad in the early 80s.
It is let to remember that you need to revisit the forgiveness that took everything from you. 70x7

Only those who showed remorse and regret for what they did, not just empty apologies. Very rarely does this happen.

It is very difficult, but necessary to move forward, forgiveness that is...

yes but it is hard to forgive and forget

It can take time depending on the betrayal I guess.

If it's never been up for conversation how would you even know?

May forgive, never forget

Everyone has limitations. Even Mahatma Gandhi acknowledged this.

It's how some deal with their own limitations that the weak can "never forgive".

Please note the stress on "never". Not on always. The strong can have weaknesses. Yet the weak far, far more so.

Understanding this is actually a strength.

I forgive everyone. I don't begrudge their trespasses. I hope they don't begrudge mine.

I will gladly die by my sword, and I will not live in the shadow of fear and hate.

My rebuke will be clear, understandable, and honest. Even if I can't expect that from others.

But just because I forgive someone, doesn't mean I'm stupid enough to give them access to myself. I never give anyone more than I'm willing to lose.

Yes but after penance

Almost always

With all my respect I don´t share Gandhi´s worldview.

Regardless, I´ve forgiven some people about some stuff and never others.
So voted Yes but not Always.

I'd forgive if I knew how, but that shit still hurts.

I watched a crime documentary a few years ago about a couple of high school kids that murdered a guys daughter that they'd been bullying. The facts of the case were horrific and the girl's father had no hate or animosity towards them after their conviction. He forgiven them and wished for them to find help. It was one of the few cases they actually drove me to tears. The guy was a saint. 🙏

no i hold grudges like nothing else. I dont agree with the "weak can never forgive", to me forgiveness in a lot of cases is foolish and just opens you up again to being betrayed or whatever else

Sometimes the betrayal is so heinous, that forgiving them would be akin to justifying what they did.