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Have you ever truly forgiven a person?

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The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.
- Mahatma Gandhi

I guess I'm not as strong as I thought. 🤔
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Sometimes the betrayal is so heinous, that forgiving them would be akin to justifying what they did.
Nevaeh0081 · 36-40, F
@NativePortlander1970 I know that most of the time it feels that way.

But, state your business, air it out and break it down.

I'd forgive, but best believe you're gonna know what you did wrong..
@Nevaeh0081 What I did wrong? LOL 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 My bastard lazy stoner ass uncle orchestrated my attempted arrest, and got my grandmother to lie to the police, ALL BECAUSE I was getting sick and tired of SUPPORTING everyone that lived in the house and was moving out if state, they eventually told the cops that BECAUSE they were losing my paycheck, I deserved to go to prison, because they couldn't keep affording to live where we were without it. About 85% of my take home was going to my grandmother and keeping HER out of legal trouble because she was always writing bad checks, my covering them, and her not paying the bills from the money I'd give her, instead giving it to my lazy uncle, who claimed that drug tests are unconstitutional, he'd rather get stoned than work. BUT GUESS WHO HAD A CAR, while I HAD TO WALK 2.5 MILES TO WORK AND BACK EVERY DAY, because I couldn't even afford daily fair for public transportation. I was 27, I had made a promise to my Grandfather when he was dying of cancer when I was 22 to care of my grandmother. After five years I couldn't take it anymore, there were two last straws, I found out my uncle would spy on me when I had enough money saved up to go to DownTown Portland on my Days off, follow me around. Every so often I would get the feeling that someone was watching me, so I knew of some buildings that went into parking garages I could duck into and come out onto the streets far away from that building. This was confirmed by a failed date with a woman that I don't blame that she never showed up, she told me in an email that it looked like someone was watching me thinking I was being tailed by the police for some reason and it spooked her, then she described a guy that fit my uncle spot on, including a mole on the back of his mostly bald head. The second one was when his live in girlfriend cornered me in the kitchen and demanded I give my grandmother more money out of my paycheck. The aftermath of the night I left, almost five years to the day after my Grandfather died of cancer, the lies my uncle and grandmother told about me cost me MY ENTIRE DAD'S SIDE OF MY FAMILY. I am just glad my Dad and Grandfather weren't alive at that time to see what happened, it would have torn them apart, My Dad's OWN MOTHER AND LITTLE BROTHER, they betrayed me so bad that to this day, almost 26 years later, only FOUR members of my family have talked with me, they themselves having been burned by them, one if my first cousins, a second cousin, and her two older daughters, her oldest, a son, and her youngest, a daughter, who was born a day before my seventh birthday, still think I'm not worth shit, plus both my two older brothers have refused to take my side and still talk with the family. WHAT I DID WRONG? EXPLAIN THAT TO ME THEN. Like I said, some betrayals are so bad that to forgive would justify their actions.
Nevaeh0081 · 36-40, F
@NativePortlander1970 Hard times. It's harder cause it's family. Your reality your choice. I hope things get better for you.

I'd distance myself. Set boundaries. And let it go. It's hard. But that kind of burden is heavy.

All the best.

🙏
@Nevaeh0081 You don't let shit like that go.
Nevaeh0081 · 36-40, F
@NativePortlander1970 Does it bother you?

Do you wanna live with that for the rest of your life?

I know it's hard cause the pain still resonates.

But try.

For your sake.

When you let that go,

I'm sure you'll breathe a lot better.

🙏
@Nevaeh0081 What are you some god damned 12 stepper?
Nevaeh0081 · 36-40, F
@NativePortlander1970 You're hurting, so I won't respond in kind.

But, lose some of that anger before it breaks you.
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