I'm doing my best to stay strong
But every now & then a few tears start falling & then I get it back together & carry on like nothing happened. I hope I'm being strong because lately it feels like I'm just trying not to break
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Mordechai · 31-35, M
I'm sorry dude 😔 for one you are being strong, it doesn't mean not having feelings or not being phased, its carrying on, it's something we cultivate over time. If you need to feel something then feel it, it's better to let it out even if it's painful.
The Emotions we don't like aren't bad, they're telling us we need to pay attention to them, process them, let them out. It's grief, it comes in waves when your mind and body feels like you'll be able to handle it, the minds always protecting us like that.
You sound determined
The Emotions we don't like aren't bad, they're telling us we need to pay attention to them, process them, let them out. It's grief, it comes in waves when your mind and body feels like you'll be able to handle it, the minds always protecting us like that.
You sound determined
Mordechai · 31-35, M
Everyone's different but when I can't shake the feelings or it feels to much I find running really helps, I put in headphones and just go at my own pace. It's like a moving kind of meditation. Working out can help too, it's what I did yesterday to feel better when I was feeling sad.
Hope it helps
Hope it helps
ChiefJustWalks · 26-30
@Mordechai your words do help, thank you man. For some reason I still fight my tears even if I'm alone. I do my best not to just start breaking down. Sometimes I even gotta walk away from whatever I'm doing & focus on something else. It does kinda feel like I'm not letting myself feel the hard stuff enough. I'm hoping it doesn't catch up to me. I used to tell people you can't ghost your feelings because they'll come back to haunt you. I'm trying to remember that. Sometimes I don't know how to let things out. It's like I don't even know where to start.
I used to go running & playing music when I felt upset. That does really help. Right now I'm not sure what I'm doing to help myself when I feel worse. I should figure something out.
I used to go running & playing music when I felt upset. That does really help. Right now I'm not sure what I'm doing to help myself when I feel worse. I should figure something out.
Mordechai · 31-35, M
@ChiefJustWalks I get it man, it's like once it comes out it's gonna be too much. I remember being like that in work, pretty much everywhere I went it'd just appear all of a sudden and feel like a dam that was gonna crack open if I let it. It will come out when you're ready man, it's not something that follows a formula, be kind and patient to yourself.
There's gonna be good days and tough days but you will come out of the other side of it and it won't feel like this even if you can't imagine it rn. Yeah good to have a plan even if it's a couple things that get you out of the house or maybe seeing a therapist once or twice a month, or just when you feel you need it.
There's gonna be good days and tough days but you will come out of the other side of it and it won't feel like this even if you can't imagine it rn. Yeah good to have a plan even if it's a couple things that get you out of the house or maybe seeing a therapist once or twice a month, or just when you feel you need it.
ChiefJustWalks · 26-30
@Mordechai yeah sounds like you're familiar with the feeling. It's embarrassing when it hits you when you're around a lot of people. I find my eyes watering up & then I gotta quickly think of something else or get focused on something before any tears start falling.
I have considered trying therapy again. I never did individual therapy, only couples counseling. I wish I tried switching therapists with that instead of quitting. I've gone on a few walks in the evening lately & those have been relaxing. I even brought a skateboard with me the last 2 days & cruised all over the park nearby. I found out they built new parks, sidewalks, & fields there so I plan to bring my daughter
I have considered trying therapy again. I never did individual therapy, only couples counseling. I wish I tried switching therapists with that instead of quitting. I've gone on a few walks in the evening lately & those have been relaxing. I even brought a skateboard with me the last 2 days & cruised all over the park nearby. I found out they built new parks, sidewalks, & fields there so I plan to bring my daughter