Body shaming is not more egregious than modesty shaming

People are allowed to not want to see your body revealed to the world, for as much as you are allowed to be proud of it.

What prompted this was seeing an Instagram pile on over a couple of women saying that they don't particularly enjoy seeing fully naked women in the gym changing rooms. They didn't say that it should be banned and they didn't shame any bodies. They just preferred the more modest approach. They were savaged in the comments for daring to oppress full on vagene displays.

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Miram · 31-35, F

I don't understand this. Are they expecting women to not change in the changing room? What modest approach?

ostfuidctyvm

@Miram They didn't express an expectation other than saying that they didn't enjoy seeing it. I believe that's entirely valid. Perhaps in an ideal world they would prefer that people make at least some effort to be more modest with their nudity. Again, they have a right to feel that way. They didn't demand anything or try to impose any rules.

Miram · 31-35, F

@ostfuidctyvm

Not liking something is one thing.

The need to make statements about it, especially when it is a context requiring some type of nudity, is another.

It is very strange to make those statements considering they can just look away.

In an ideal world, everyone would have their own changing space.

ostfuidctyvm

@Miram I think it's fine to express that you don't enjoy other people's nudity regardless of context, but particularly in a context where modesty is possible even when changing. I would disagree with them if they wanted nudity banned but they didn't ask that.

Miram · 31-35, F

@ostfuidctyvm

So now I can't go to my work changing room without thinking of some pick me nut whining on social media about how naked I was to appear modest.

Modesty in changing rooms is an insane expectation

Miram · 31-35, F

@ostfuidctyvm

This is the only part I agree with

seeing an Instagram pile

Piling against them was as unfair as their nonsense if not worse. There are more important things to address than who saw whose vajayjay in washing room.

ostfuidctyvm

@Miram My main point, perhaps with not the best example used, is that I believe it's perfectly ok to not be ok with bodies. As long as nobody is being oppressed, belittled or insulted in any way then it's a basic expression of freedom.