Should I or shouldnt I. I know the answer

I work in a female dominated profession. I come in contact ( literally) daily.
Some give me glances, some move in wonderful ways or talk in suggestive tones.
There are times i have urge to make a move on one.
In todays society I could be in big trouble

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Pinaymom · 26-30, F

I think you need to trust them to let you know what they want, in no uncertain terms. We aren't living in the days when "good girls" waited for the man to make the first move.

Outside work, it's a little different. If you're in a bar, for example, you can offer to buy a woman a drink (or vice versa) and she can turn you down if she's not interested. On a dating site, obviously it's expected. But dating co-workers is already pretty risky--for her as well as for you. So my advice is play it cool and trust that they'll say something if there's anything to be said.

Patriot96 · 56-60, C

@Pinaymom I was approached by one colleague. She and hub are amazing friends to us

Pinaymom · 26-30, F

@Patriot96 Great. Then you have experience with how this should work.

Patriot96 · 56-60, C

@Pinaymom her intentions were very obvious. The others im not sure of.
Been touched, brushed ,,accidentally

Pinaymom · 26-30, F

@Patriot96 Like I said, they will tell you if there's anything to tell. But I don't mean anything like "It was obvious what she wanted," or "I could tell."

Don't assume they're interested unless they ask you out for a date. It's the difference between "Obvious" and "explicit."

"Obvious" means "anyone could see it," but sometimes that's just a story that we tell ourselves. "Explicit" means "She actually said it in so many words."

Patriot96 · 56-60, C

@Pinaymom well she and i were doing inventory in the stock room. It was obvious and we do hook up

Pinaymom · 26-30, F

@Patriot96 You know, since you have a coworker that you're involved with, my best advice is to ask her what you should do. If you're poly then she probably won't mind, and she may know the women that you're thinking of.

The only other advice I'll give you is, don't assume that no one knows about your relationship with this woman. Workplace relationships are hardly ever truly secret.

I mention this because if you start dating another woman from work, then that could get messy. Even if everyone involved is OK with it, most of your co-workers won't be. And it doesn't matter that it's "none of their business." They won't ignore what they know.