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Does it matter to you when people add you to their friends and then unfriend you?

Like it's supposed to be some kind of displeasure punishment to you. 😂
Torsten · 36-40, M
I dont care enough to even notice if they do that
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SW-User
@Torsten You don't observe it, even if you don't care? I suppose I click on tabs when I am bored and suddenly see someone hanging on the wrong tab.😂
Torsten · 36-40, M
@SW-User nah I never even think to look. Granted I dont follow back most people either. Just something I dont care about really 😆
pentacorn · F
i always assume they're "cleaning house", i.e. getting rid of people they don't actually interact with on a level they find fulfilling. obviously i don't fit that bill! what a relief to know i'm not being held to the standard anymore
SW-User
@pentacorn I like that!
It might as well be their wish to keep their circle narrow to those they actually interact with. I've removed a few over the time when it made no sense for me to call us friends, or staying in each other circles. It's not a sign of punishment or displeasure from my side, and they're free to keep following me or remove from their list of people they follow. However, I am also not just adding anyone who adds me. I like my circle to be narrow.
@SW-User
Friends, or who thought of being a friend at a time can disappoint us at some point.
SW-User
@pillowprincess Oh I am all to aware of that and I have done things too reacting to stimuli where I have disappointed friends.
@SW-User
I guess most have at some point in life. As for this place, I've been taught the hard way not to think too much of a friendship vanishing. It might also be why I no longer really am looking for widening my circle, unless it happens naturally over time, or with a reason. I hardly use my private messages here anymore.
Freeranger · M
Not at all......your true friends are always stalwart. These other fickle impostors are just people constantly looking for a better deal.....
I wish them well, they are restless souls who never find their way IMO.
SW-User
@Freeranger I could like this a hundred times if I could.
ABCDEF7 · M
It used to, but not now.

Now I think, they have freed up some space in my mind that they used to occupy. It's time to use it for better purposes.
SW-User
@ABCDEF7 Wise words right there.
rrraksamam · 31-35, M
I do that.
I have done that.
If I feel someone doesn't deserve to be around me, out they go.
SW-User
@rrraksamam 👀 Umm...I don't like being anxious.
rrraksamam · 31-35, M
@SW-User You'll be fine. Don't worry. You know me.
SW-User
@rrraksamam Okay. I'll look out for it.
I'd probably have disconnected the follow before they can do it themselves but I don't think it'd bother me. it might annoy me as a way of creating noise at me.... which seems like it might be the main goal of doing something like that if I think about it.
SW-User
@stound There is usually a message behind such actions, especially if they're not total random strangers who changed their minds.
@SW-User I'm not sure there really is much in the way of a 'real' stranger on sw much anymore. if it were to happen to me, I'd suspect it was someone I once knew trying to send a message as you'd mentioned, but with plausible deniability/indirectly.
IamBack · 31-35, M
Meh if you mean on here then it’s totally normal

IRL friends who add you on Facebook then remove you then that’s weird 🤷🏻‍♂️

We do stupid shit when upset though 🤷🏻‍♂️
IamBack · 31-35, M
@SW-User people are weird, that’s all I can say really 🤷🏻‍♂️
SW-User
@IamBack I suppose that answers, lol. I don't know why I bother going deeper than that. 😂
IamBack · 31-35, M
@SW-User yeah well I try to give people chances too because I’m a perfectionist and am lonely so I thought maybe lower my standards a lil bit but people will keep disappointing :(
alan20 · M
I think it would do; not too many have taken the first step in my case. I'd never do it. I think some have a perverse sadistic streak that can lead them to enjoy playing stupid games.
SW-User
@alan20 It is that compulsion of playing stupid games that really makes me curious. It is what makes me ask this.
alan20 · M
@SW-User I think we can all remember in our childhood people who get a kick out of feeling they are on top. It may come from a deep-seated feeling of inferiority that they try to overcome by hurting or dominating others. Whether genetic or from some repressed trauma I've never found it attractive. It's always hard to know how to deal with a bully but I pity them now and don't feel any need to hit back. Unless essential for self - defence. ❤️
SW-User
@alan20 Very much agree. It is better they take themselves out.
SW-User
If I add you rn, will you add me bk, so i can unadd you?

Shouldn't have took the cinnabon.
SW-User
@SW-User Oh I was practicing for when you do. 🙃
SW-User
@SW-User I won't unless you do something consistenly annoying or creepy. 😅 I don't block people
SW-User
@SW-User Alright. I shall keep that in mind.
Unlearn · 41-45, M
Nope. It just tells me they don't like me very much...
SW-User
@Unlearn My field of interest is humans but in one way you're also right. I need to analyse better behaviours.
There are better people analysing current world issues.
Unlearn · 41-45, M
@SW-User because whatever we focus on grows. You don't want to grow wrong things in your life...
SW-User
@Unlearn ❤️ Thank you. I needed to be reminded.
assemblingaknob · 26-30, F
I have done this to a coworker. I added her on my social media out of pressure because she'd keep resending request thinking that I haven't seen it. But later I decided I'm not comfortable with her being so intimate with my life so I unfriended her.
SW-User
@assemblingaknob I see your position. No one should feel pressured into these things.
WhateverWorks · 36-40
I don’t even notice lol
@WhateverWorks 👆👆👆
calicuz · 51-55, M
Nah, not at all
SW-User
@calicuz Super! :)
Starcrossed · 41-45, F
I honestly dont notice, it's usually some creep I havent even engaged with whatsoever who probably just wants to see pics.
SW-User
@Starcrossed LOL true that.
NickiHijab · F
I don't even care when they block and unblock me.
Unless we were close at one point which they never are.
SW-User
@NickiHijab True, same. I mostly notice if I have known the person for a while.
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NickiHijab · F
@Unlearn thank you
SW-User
@SethGreene531 LOL really?😂
bookerdana · M
I probably wouldn't notice,i have trouble enough keeping up with friends i know well and have a history with........not much of a punishment
revenant · F
I do not think anyone has done that to me or I did not notice
SW-User
@revenant Fair enough.
Lilnonames · F
@revenant i did haha🤭
revenant · F
@Lilnonames how dare you....☺️
SW-User
It depends who they are. There are some who have added me and we've never had any interaction.
SW-User
@SW-User Yeah. Same. Those ones if they removed me, I'd not even question.
Teslin · M
Nope, everyone can do as they please. I expect it has happened. I don't pay attention to minor details like that.
SW-User
@Teslin Fair enough.
It would annoy me.

I quit all other social media years ago, I only use SW.
SW-User
@NotSureAboutMyUserName This is also the only social media I use. And the word social in it doesn't hold much weight for me on here either.
CrazyMusicLover · 31-35
Chances are I won't even notice until much later. 😆
SW-User
@CrazyMusicLover And when you notice?👀
CrazyMusicLover · 31-35
@SW-User Unfollow them back because it feels weird to be following someone who doesn't follow me too. 😅
SW-User
@CrazyMusicLover Don't tell anyone but I did that too. 😂 Just on principle.
Not at all.
Let people do what they feel like and all remains in place.
SW-User
@sspec Good attitude.
@SW-User [quote]Alright then.[/quote]
SW-User
Naww , I wait for them to add me first 😉
SW-User
I don’t delete without out good cause though 😌 @SW-User
SW-User
@SW-User It usually doesn't matter to me enough to go delete someone first but if I do it its because I got triggered some way, lol. Once they delete me though, I will delete them. Petty reaction but it is what it is. 😂
SW-User
You are what you are and I am what I am 😁
Tisk tisk …petty indeed 😌 I guess we all have our ( idiosyncrasies) triggers 😉@SW-User
Coppercoil · M
I only do it for the joy of refriending someone all over again.
SW-User
@Coppercoil Lol I see. How does that work out for you?
Coppercoil · M
@SW-User poorly
SW-User
Nah, it has happened to me many times for some reason they decide to take me off. I don’t really like it though so I stopped adding people. I used to add people when I thought they seemed cool but it doesn’t work out that way. I don’t tolerate drama anymore so I keep my distance. Once I added someone and they ended up blocking me for no reason so I don’t dare humiliate myself that way anymore.

Also, I hope you don’t remove me from your list but if you do that’s fine. Haha
BeJeweled · F
I dont really give a damn. Just here for shits and giggles anyway.
SW-User
@BeJeweled That's really a good detachment to have on here.
Santi96 · 26-30
Yes…if they are frenemy
Santi96 · 26-30
@SW-User lol no. Who does that is crazy
SW-User
@Santi96 It has been known to happen. 😂 No shortage of 'crazy' in this world, lol.
Santi96 · 26-30
@SW-User Karens lol
suzette · 46-50, F
It doesn't matter to me.
I barely even notice.
SW-User
@suzette Great!
alan20 · M
It would very much depend on who did it !🥶
SW-User
@alan20 very true.
Maybe it was an accident?
SW-User
@SStarfish in my case, no. But yeah it can easily be.
I typically don't even know.
CestManan · 46-50, F
I already know who I interact with here on the regular. Who is or isn't on my "friends" list is meaningless.
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I usually don’t notice.
SW-User
@bijouxbroussard That's healthy.
Zonuss · 41-45, M
No. It just means what I and others have always said about some on this site.
The mental instability rate is pretty high. Just saying. 🙂
SW-User
@Zonuss That it is. And the ability of the mentally unstable to drive people to drop others as friends is also amazing on here.
SW-User
Haha!! Someone did that all before I could even see who added me! lol
I've unfriended people after a time... ones who have nothing in common or just aren't what I'd
be acquainted with normally. Sometimes, that isn't so obvious in the beginning.
SW-User
@SW-User That makes sense.
Human1000 · M
I don’t notice.
SW-User
@Human1000 It seems to be healthy that way.
Lilnonames · F
Sometimes this site does it itself when they update. Ive had ut happen to me and others
SW-User
@Lilnonames That is strange!
(also I had responded to this before but I don't see it, lol).
Lilnonames · F
@SW-User ive had five unfriended and we talk dailey i ask why we no longer friends and then we have to refriend each other
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