When you were a child, what adult behavior do you find most confusing? Now that you're an adult, did you finally get to understand why?

I used to wonder how some adults seem to have cold hearts. Like you never really thought about it when we were kids.

As kids, it's easy to forgive, easy to befriend someone who was enemy before, even a bully. As kids, there was a time we were innocent and it almost felt nothing can change that.

And then we grew up. Roles to play. Responsibilities. Expectations. Apparently, being true to yourself is not an advice that is always welcome. Apparently, capitalism is a thing and you need to work for pay. What of your dream to change the world? What of your dream to find true love? True friends? Live a good life?

It took me sometime to realize that all those things I wanted are still possible...if I am willing to compromise and accept that the fulfillment of them are now so different to what I thought they would look like when I was a kid. Happiness looks different. Success looks different. Changing the world became changing myself and learning to adapt.

So they say happy are the adaptable. I see it.

I see it.

CheezeburgerBrown · 36-40, M

Why both my parents drank ..especially my mom.
She had to drink to get her emotions out . And it became violent and Her drunken dialogues were pretty hurtful and made me feel less then a person almost all the time . I didn’t know this was generational trauma and she was passing it down to me .
My Father was also a drinker, but he was always working and never talked down or beat me when he was drunk. He was my Superman!.. and I’m glad he always stood up for me but he would get my mother’s wrath as well .
I lost my father and mother before I got sober for myself and learned how trauma created my life as a child before I had a say so ..as I’m walking this journey of healing and recovery. Now I understand ..