A lot of those feelings you describe were waiting for us when we were born, they weren't consciously developed by us from scratch but reactively developed by how we were treated or mistreated by parents, older brothers and sisters, and the world we were born into.

It's when we start questioning our reactional feelings and conduct that we stop and say "wait a minute, that's not who I am or who I want to be" and we start swapping out our old reactional selves for who we decide for ourselves who we want to be.

Welcome to the club!! :)

One of the great blessings of Christianity is to believe that we are made in the image and likeness of God, and thus have inestimable intrinsic value. And, that no matter how far short we fall.of the ideal, His mercy and grace and forgiveness is nigh unto inexhaustible.

Is your brother still trying to borrow $50,000?