Do you invalidate your own feelings at times?

My partner pointed out that I often downplay my own emotions, not giving myself the time to fully feel and/or process them.

I tend to avoid dwelling on sadness or anger bc I believe life has so much more to offer than focusing on the negatives.

But, he encourages me to embrace my feelings as they come, moment by moment, and express them however I want with him. He says it’s essential for my inner peace and personal growth.

I think he kinda has a point 😕

But, I might also be mesmerized. He does have that special effect on me, lol

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Matt85 · 36-40, M

sometimes

Northwest · M

it depends. If you're feeling good about where you are in life, or love, you may not want to ruin the glow. Somewhat normal human reaction.

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Northwest · M

@Nunki I think there's a tendency to mistake wanting to be happy for lack of empathy.

You can still have empathy while a smile on your face.

Repressed emotions is another thing, and the particulars can eventually cause a backlash.

Nunki · 31-35, F

Empathy towards myself? @Northwest

Northwest · M

@Nunki I would hope you have empathy toward yourself :-)

I meant that sometime people look at what's going in the world (or any scale you choose), but still have a smile on their face as they're dealing with what's going on. Some interpret it as lack of empathy in general.

pripyatamusementpark

Sometimes
It's more to do with conditioning...thinking we are overreacting etc ...being gaslit by our caregivers growing up

Sutten · 36-40, F

You lucky to have him.

Different · 31-35, M

Nah i share them always

Kiesel · 56-60, M

Yes and no
I’ve only downplayed them (second guessed) when others have the opinion how dare I feel a certain way about something

tenente · 100+, M

Sure, but what you're describing isn't bad. We're survival machines. While reconciling with anger and sadness is healthy, it's not the only thing happening around us. There is strength in simply acknowledging what bothers us is in the past, doesn't define us, and just move on.

Nunki · 31-35, F

Yeah. It’s a coping mechanism @tenente

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