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Have you shared your hopes, dreams, & desires with the wrong person? Have you healed from the experience?

Will you ever trust another as deeply as you did the wrong one, or have you changed to become more protective of your own heart and soul?

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Wiseacre · F

I don't share much personal stuff as u may've noticed...always had thick walls around me. Trust has to be earnt.

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LadyBronte · 56-60, F

@Wiseacre I'm glad it works for you - that's the most important thing. Funny how life can turn out so differently than we once imagined.

Wiseacre · F

@LadyBronte yes, life had other plans...

LadyBronte · 56-60, F

@Wiseacre 😔

SmileOnYourBrother

I was the wrong person. 😏

Magenta · F

I don't typically share all of those or personal things with anyone. Maybe IF I knew them well, after a time.

LadyBronte · 56-60, F

@Magenta I typically don't either. Thought I knew someone well - it had been years. It became apparent I didn't. Left me with the knowledge that I am not a good enough judge of character to ever take that chance again. *shrug* Life goes on.

thinkingoutloud · F

At the time I shared those with someone, he was the right person. It didn't work out.
Initially it hurt. But I don't regret sharing all I did. He was special to me and that counts for a lot.
Did I share again? Absolutely.
Life can be very lonely and empty without someone walking besides us, sharing in the big things.

LadyBronte · 56-60, F

@thinkingoutloud It is lonely. But for me, it is the safer alternative. I'm glad you have healed.

thinkingoutloud · F

@LadyBronte I get the need for safety. But to me, loneliness is also unsafe and I choose to take chances. Healing is an ongoing process. As is learning. As long as I understand that there are no guarantees, I am willing to try.
All the best. I hope you heal.

LadyBronte · 56-60, F

@thinkingoutloud Thank you. And I hope you find happiness.

Adogslife · 61-69, M

Honestly, I’m just here to enjoy life. If she wants to come on that ride, I’ll keep it upbeat. If you don’t want to go on the ride, I’m going without you.

Life is short. I refuse to not enjoy it.

LadyBronte · 56-60, F

@Adogslife I don't blame you at all. Keep up the smiles and the happy. That's what I love about you!

MarbleMarvel

I did and very recently. I think I am healing fast but I'm also taking it slow.

LadyBronte · 56-60, F

@MarbleMarvel I am not sure some scars ever heal, at least for me. I am learning to live with it the best that I can, and making a life on my own, with my own terms, not needing anyone.

thepreposterouspanda · 36-40, M

Nah, I don't really trust much anymore. People come and go too easily.

LadyBronte · 56-60, F

@thepreposterouspanda This exactly.

Piper · 61-69, F

There are some people I've trusted and confided in, and felt...was betrayed by. Over time, I've become more cautious about trusting people, and a little less sure of my own intuition.

I am unsure about the last question, as far as trusting a person with my whole heart and 'soul'.

LadyBronte · 56-60, F

@Piper I am cautious as well, to the point of being debilitating. That last question simply means trusting someone with all that you hold dear and sacred. Sorry that was unclear, I see how it could have been.

Piper · 61-69, F

@LadyBronte I think I understood what you meant, I just can't really answer the question of whether or not I'll ever trust anyone that much, again.

LadyBronte · 56-60, F

@Piper Ah. I see. As long as you don't rule it out completely. That's the most important.

twistedrope · 26-30, M

Many times. Now I just know the warning signs a bit earlier who's going to be a dick about it. Unless you got experience... Some folks ain't looking for warning signs v.v

Doesn't stop me... But does raise the barrier of entry a bit

LadyBronte · 56-60, F

@twistedrope I really didn't have a clue. That's what make me realize, I am not a good judge of character.

twistedrope · 26-30, M

@LadyBronte You live and learn. No one is born cautious of people... They learn it. Sometimes like me, they learn in childhood and get massive trust issues.

Others learn in adulthood and read the signs after.

Ain't no medicine for regret, but I think you'll do fine <3 You're smart.

LadyBronte · 56-60, F

@twistedrope I agree. Thanks!

Coldplay · 61-69, M

I think I am always healing. And I have trust in a few. But it takes time.

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LadyBronte · 56-60, F

@Coldplay Believe it or not, I am actually trying. It just doesn't come easily when things have been knocked so off kilter.

Coldplay · 61-69, M

@LadyBronte oh, I get it!

LadyBronte · 56-60, F

@Coldplay Yeah. I know you do.

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Sapio · 51-55, M

In truth, I have isolated myself but not with walls. I'm just a loner and it works for me.

LadyBronte · 56-60, F

@Sapio As long as it works for you, that's all that matters. I have put up walls, stronger than before. Making it work for me. Finding ways to insulate myself and create my own happy.

HobNoblin · 36-40, M

No l keep that stuff to myself because they could be FBI.

LadyBronte · 56-60, F

@HobNoblin Hahah!

Shybutwilling2bfriends · 61-69

Yes and ive healed but it took a long time

LadyBronte · 56-60, F

@Shybutwilling2bfriends Good for you! It really does take a long time.

Pinkstarburst · 51-55, F

I did once. Now I pay for someone to hear them.

DDonde · 31-35, M

Yeah.
Probably

LadyBronte · 56-60, F

@DDonde Same.

candycane · 31-35, F

Wont ever do again😢

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LadyBronte · 56-60, F

@PatKirby Yeah. Me too. And how sad is that? That people have so little regard they don't care enough to even be honest to prevent another from such damage...

PatKirby · M

@LadyBronte

From experience I've learned you can't really tell someone they're going to get burned, you risk losing their friendship. Even with relatives. They have to go through it themselves.

At any rate like the saying goes, a smart person learns from their mistakes, but a wise person learns from other people's mistakes.

LadyBronte · 56-60, F

@PatKirby Everyone has to go through their own thing. Some of us learn the hard way.

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