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Dainbramadge · 56-60, M
You might not realize it but you actually listed more good than bad.
It's really cool that you can still accomplish stuff even tho you are struggling with the mental stuff.
When my depression was out of control I spent all of my time hiding away from everyone and everything and did nothing.
My anger management counselor and my regular counselor really stressed that positive self talk. They had me looking in the mirror everyday and trying to tell myself 10 things I liked about me. You know how difficult that is? Even now that my depression is way better I struggle with it. Turns out it helps reprogram your way of thinking about the negative all the time and worsening your position. LOL
The driving stuff is huge. The simple act of driving yourself represents freedom and having control over, at least a little, of your life.
Keep fighting. You don't lose until you give up.
Also don't be ashamed of being you and having struggles.
That's one thing this place is really good for is letting it out.
Our struggles are what defines us more than our accomplishments.
I hope for more continued successes in the following year for you.
It's really cool that you can still accomplish stuff even tho you are struggling with the mental stuff.
When my depression was out of control I spent all of my time hiding away from everyone and everything and did nothing.
My anger management counselor and my regular counselor really stressed that positive self talk. They had me looking in the mirror everyday and trying to tell myself 10 things I liked about me. You know how difficult that is? Even now that my depression is way better I struggle with it. Turns out it helps reprogram your way of thinking about the negative all the time and worsening your position. LOL
The driving stuff is huge. The simple act of driving yourself represents freedom and having control over, at least a little, of your life.
Keep fighting. You don't lose until you give up.
Also don't be ashamed of being you and having struggles.
That's one thing this place is really good for is letting it out.
Our struggles are what defines us more than our accomplishments.
I hope for more continued successes in the following year for you.
PrestonJ · 36-40
It was a little all over the place but I feel good about it.
1. I ended my first long term relationship with a guy
2. Revisited a past relationship from over 7 years ago and discovered it should have stayed there.
3. I got a promotion and a new title, but was then let go with everyone else because that facility closed down.
4. I traveled a ton. I went to the beach for 9 days, camped in the cold for a week in Tennessee, visited a my home city of Atlanta for a week and spent a week in California. With plans to go to New York next week for nine days starting next Wednesday. It has changed the way I feel about myself and people.
5. Made progress in therapy and accepted a lot of things about myself including cross dressing, how I prefer to be in a relationship, and discovered my self esteem was destroyed by my job and had been stunted growing up
6. I decided to start dating women again. I dated guys for the past two years to solidify that part in me and find acceptance and then revisited my ex and remembered how much I enjoy the intimacy that women give.
7. Increased the amount I have saved and invested with the help of being let go at work.
8. I learned what style of clothing I like and embraced it. I prefer more stylish metrosexual type clothing (Not the norm In my area)
9. I stopped being surrounded by an extremely toxic group of people at work who actively worked against me.
10. I think I found my heart again. I had put up such high walls to protect myself from others that I didn’t even have full access to it. I think I’m finally putting myself first instead of being who I think others want me to be.
1. I ended my first long term relationship with a guy
2. Revisited a past relationship from over 7 years ago and discovered it should have stayed there.
3. I got a promotion and a new title, but was then let go with everyone else because that facility closed down.
4. I traveled a ton. I went to the beach for 9 days, camped in the cold for a week in Tennessee, visited a my home city of Atlanta for a week and spent a week in California. With plans to go to New York next week for nine days starting next Wednesday. It has changed the way I feel about myself and people.
5. Made progress in therapy and accepted a lot of things about myself including cross dressing, how I prefer to be in a relationship, and discovered my self esteem was destroyed by my job and had been stunted growing up
6. I decided to start dating women again. I dated guys for the past two years to solidify that part in me and find acceptance and then revisited my ex and remembered how much I enjoy the intimacy that women give.
7. Increased the amount I have saved and invested with the help of being let go at work.
8. I learned what style of clothing I like and embraced it. I prefer more stylish metrosexual type clothing (Not the norm In my area)
9. I stopped being surrounded by an extremely toxic group of people at work who actively worked against me.
10. I think I found my heart again. I had put up such high walls to protect myself from others that I didn’t even have full access to it. I think I’m finally putting myself first instead of being who I think others want me to be.
WhateverWorks · 36-40
You did a great job, persevering, despite the weight on your mental health. Congratulations on your accomplishments. The things you described aren’t small.
Well… in 2023 a lot of good things were going on but my kid was going through… a lot. It was a scary time. My whole life (choices, sacrifices, efforts to take care of us and get us into a better situation) felt pointless.. that I’d made some crucial mistake somewhere that I couldn’t pinpoint, but was undeniable or what was going on, wouldn’t be happening. I couldn’t feel happy at all about so much good going on that I’d been working so hard a very long time to make happen.
I’ve been through some pretty wild, terrible things, but that was the first time I needed antidepressants to hang in there, for myself, but more so for everyone else.
That turned out to be a good decision, and was very helpful.
Long story short, we’re all doing much better now.
We caught Covid for the first time. That sucked immensely. My sense of taste and smell eventually came back, but I still have tinnitus from it. 😑
Some of my family finally came out to celebrate a holiday with me. Younger me was often sad they never came out before. Now I know that was a good thing 😆😆😆
The good..
-We got settled into our new house and made endearing memories like dinners together, sitting around the fire.. Wholesome joys that I extra appreciate because of my chaotic, bizarre, dysfunctional upbringing.
-My best friend and I got engaged. He’s pretty wonderful.
-After 10 years of whittling away at school, I finally got to start my internship. It’s been very fulfilling and has me excited again about the career stuff.
-I really enjoy my workplace and finally hanging out with people who share my interests/values. I really missed being around people I could actually connect to. (Other than just my fiancé)
-I went on a few flights to visit loved ones and have adventures. That was fantastic after not being able to travel for 3-ish years.
-My closest friend got to meet my fiancé finally. Really, this was the first time he got to meet a lot of my friends. In the past, my exes and friends did not hit it off. It means a lot finally getting to casually hang out together and everybody have a great time.
-I saw a lot of doctors and physical therapists, which has led to some significant health improvements to my quality of life.
Well… in 2023 a lot of good things were going on but my kid was going through… a lot. It was a scary time. My whole life (choices, sacrifices, efforts to take care of us and get us into a better situation) felt pointless.. that I’d made some crucial mistake somewhere that I couldn’t pinpoint, but was undeniable or what was going on, wouldn’t be happening. I couldn’t feel happy at all about so much good going on that I’d been working so hard a very long time to make happen.
I’ve been through some pretty wild, terrible things, but that was the first time I needed antidepressants to hang in there, for myself, but more so for everyone else.
That turned out to be a good decision, and was very helpful.
Long story short, we’re all doing much better now.
We caught Covid for the first time. That sucked immensely. My sense of taste and smell eventually came back, but I still have tinnitus from it. 😑
Some of my family finally came out to celebrate a holiday with me. Younger me was often sad they never came out before. Now I know that was a good thing 😆😆😆
The good..
-We got settled into our new house and made endearing memories like dinners together, sitting around the fire.. Wholesome joys that I extra appreciate because of my chaotic, bizarre, dysfunctional upbringing.
-My best friend and I got engaged. He’s pretty wonderful.
-After 10 years of whittling away at school, I finally got to start my internship. It’s been very fulfilling and has me excited again about the career stuff.
-I really enjoy my workplace and finally hanging out with people who share my interests/values. I really missed being around people I could actually connect to. (Other than just my fiancé)
-I went on a few flights to visit loved ones and have adventures. That was fantastic after not being able to travel for 3-ish years.
-My closest friend got to meet my fiancé finally. Really, this was the first time he got to meet a lot of my friends. In the past, my exes and friends did not hit it off. It means a lot finally getting to casually hang out together and everybody have a great time.
-I saw a lot of doctors and physical therapists, which has led to some significant health improvements to my quality of life.
hunkalove · 61-69, M
One of the worst years of my pitiful life. The woman I was living with and I had a big argument one year ago today and after making my life miserable for 5 months she moved out. We weren't romantic, she is half my age, but she was my best friend for a couple years. I haven't been able to get over it. I've started writing 3 short stories and abandoned all of them because I couldn't focus. An entire year lost because I lost my temper and yelled at her over a stupid ugly cheap used couch she bought sight-unseen on the Internet. I'll never forgive myself for that.
CestManan · 46-50, F
JoyfulSilence · 46-50, M
I almost died. I had flesh eating bacteria on the back of my neck, which spread to my vertebrae. I had surgeries and a skin graft. I had to use a walker for three months. My neck is still stiff and my body still weak. I also learned I had diabetes. Fortunately, medication has brought my sugar level down. The year ended with my stool sample testing positive for possible colon cancer. Today, I cut my lip on the foil of my Chipotle burrito.
On the flip side, I got promoted, and got a huge bonus for some work I did in fall 2020. I got a colonoscopy, and they did not find any cancer. Today, I am enjoying a Chipotle burrito!
On the flip side, I got promoted, and got a huge bonus for some work I did in fall 2020. I got a colonoscopy, and they did not find any cancer. Today, I am enjoying a Chipotle burrito!
PerfectionOfTheHeart · 46-50, F
Definitely make note of the good things that happened. It helps shift the focus where it needs to be.
Both this year and last year wrecked the hell out of me. But with each breath I try to hold onto the blessings that came my way. They were often tiny and scattered about, but at least I was here to experience their warmth and goodness. That’s the greatest gift 2023 gave me…just being here for the ride.
Both this year and last year wrecked the hell out of me. But with each breath I try to hold onto the blessings that came my way. They were often tiny and scattered about, but at least I was here to experience their warmth and goodness. That’s the greatest gift 2023 gave me…just being here for the ride.
CrazyMusicLover · 31-35
It was pretty uneventful for me, by my fault. Positive stuff: I became self-employed, got back on BCP and someone recommended me alum block which finally solved one of my very unpleasant problems. These two last things really improved my life for better but they're still small things. Other than that, I sense I'm in deep shits. 😬 I sense that if I'm depressed, this depression reached another level where I became strangely lethargic. I kind of feel like someone who feels like edging the rock bottom but never hits it. If you do, you can only go up, but if you're constantly in bad but never crash, you're unlikely to reset and start getting better.
deadgerbil · 22-25
It's important to know that just bc someone is blood related, it does not mean you need to take it upon yourself to endure or visit them. Being family doesn't excuse her behavior and doesn't mean you need to tolerate it
Passing the board exam in spite of everything is very good. I felt the same way when I passed my exams to get a certain job despite my home life
Passing the board exam in spite of everything is very good. I felt the same way when I passed my exams to get a certain job despite my home life
PepperMint · 26-30, F
@deadgerbil I agree, never ever visiting her again
JohnnyNoir · 56-60, M
PepperMint · 26-30, F
@JohnnyNoir I hope so too!
darkmere1983 · 46-50, M
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GeistInTheMachine · 31-35, M
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Jenny1234 · 51-55, F
@Monalisaa1986 in which ways do you want it to improve
