Queendragonfly · 31-35, F
It completely depends what he means with casual drinking. To me it means slow sips or one or two drinks in a chill environment either with friends, in a bar or at home. You should barely notice he's drunk. If you're also welcome to be sober with him and or his friends and he don't seem different except perhaps more cheerful , that's a real good signal.
If you notice when he drinks he gets agressive, jealous, controlling, flirts with women, gets real drunk and come home wasted and can barely stand up straight. And he only hangs out with friends to get drunk. And he pressures you to drink too.
That's not casual drinking and that's a big red sign.
If you notice when he drinks he gets agressive, jealous, controlling, flirts with women, gets real drunk and come home wasted and can barely stand up straight. And he only hangs out with friends to get drunk. And he pressures you to drink too.
That's not casual drinking and that's a big red sign.
Midlifemale · 61-69, M
Yes, as long as he is JUST a casual drinker. I am older and a casual drinker, I enjoy it..but 2 and no more then 3. Its a sicial thing when with friends of after eork at home.
But once it goes beyond that with anyone..trouble starts.
So be sure that he does not abuse it, or the relationship is in trouble. I have had it in my family and have seen it with other couples.
I can see why you are asking for comments because it's a serious thing
But once it goes beyond that with anyone..trouble starts.
So be sure that he does not abuse it, or the relationship is in trouble. I have had it in my family and have seen it with other couples.
I can see why you are asking for comments because it's a serious thing
CookieCrumbs · F
Anielka · F
If he just drinks 1 or 2 every now and then I would say yes, but if he likes drinking on the weekends or with friends even if he can control it and not let it get out of hand by falling drunk on the floor I would say no, the main reason is he's gonna want you to drink with him.
Midlifemale · 61-69, M
@Anielka You are right...if he likes to drink with his friends.....then he's distancing himself from his girlfriend on weekends.....and probably NOT just having one or two. I've heard too many girls being alone or with their friends because the boyfriend wants to be with his friends and drink...NOT GOOD AT ALL.
Queendragonfly · 31-35, F
@Midlifemale I have another perspective to those stories. The guy is disrespected at home and the girl gets mad when he takes distance to set a boundary and enjoy himself a good time where he feels respected and appreciated unlike how she treats him.
There's always a logic reason to a man who don't wanna come home. And more often than not, he don't feel safe with his own partner.
There's always a logic reason to a man who don't wanna come home. And more often than not, he don't feel safe with his own partner.
LookingIn · M
Think there’s some key info missing here … I.e. why don’t you drink ever?
Nothing wrong with not drinking but, for example, if you don’t because you are in recovery then that’s a whole different question than if you just don’t like alcohol.
Nothing wrong with not drinking but, for example, if you don’t because you are in recovery then that’s a whole different question than if you just don’t like alcohol.
HoraceGreenley · 61-69, M
WhateverWorks · 36-40
If you’re an alcoholic, probably a bad idea. If they need to drink every night or like to spend a lot of their free time at bars/clubs, probably not. Other than that, the occasional drink it fine.
SW-User
I think it can be fine. As long as both of you accept the other's position and don't try to transform the other to match yourselves.
RoxClymer · 41-45, M
there are a whole lot of factors
possible sure
liberals marry conservatives
white collar workers marry
blue collar workers
if your relationship is Just based around drinking, no it won't work,
base it around other interests and it just might
possible sure
liberals marry conservatives
white collar workers marry
blue collar workers
if your relationship is Just based around drinking, no it won't work,
base it around other interests and it just might
Pretzel · 70-79, M
depends on how tolerant you are
or if they are willing to drink while not in your presence.
or if they are willing to drink while not in your presence.
dale74 · M
Depends what else do you have in common and is he a casual drinker or has that liquor every week
SteelHands · 61-69, M
Not what others think, but if you think it can work. Opposites attract.
FlowersNButterflies · 61-69, FVIP
If it is enough an issue for you now, I think it will rankle more as time goes by.
Theyitis · 36-40, M
I don’t see why not. I certainly hope it could work for me.
ineedadrink · 51-55, M
As long as you respect each other's choices, sure.
LivinLite406 · 36-40, M
It works for us. I drink, she doesn’t, been married 16 years.
CrazyMusicLover · 31-35
Why it shouldn't? I don't see any problem with it.
assemblingaknob · 31-35, F
Practically not possible
SW-User
Sure why not 🤷♂️. Casually only though 😊
HannibalMontanimal · 26-30, M
i don't see how it would be a problem
popmol · 26-30, M
as long as its casual drinking yeah
InstructHer · 61-69, M
That would be fine.
vetguy1991 · 51-55, M
I think its possible
smiler2012 · 61-69
{@lilangel] well why not what difference will it make exactly it is no big crime liking a drink you know lol
Justafantasy · M
Yes. One of you may adapt a little more than the other
Benjr134 · M
Possibly.
Barny52 · 56-60, M
Sure why not
soulshadow · 36-40, M
Sure
SW-User
Of course. Unless they’re an addict
Selah ·
Drinking isnt a big deal unless they get drunk or theyre an addict
HotPizza71 · 51-55, M
If it's only occasionally,for recreational purposes,then Yes
SW-User
That depends on if alcohol bothers you or not. For most people, I think it wouldn't be a problem.