How often do you forgive your friends? And how do you make it easy?

@markansas Thank you Mr. Mark. I appreciate it :) It's refreshing to get really sensible replies. And yours are one of the truest I got here.

@Casheyane any time.. you can chat with me when you want or need to . mark

@markansas I'll keep that in mind. Thank you :)

@WhateverWorks I know. Big things. But small things... I just feel I'm becoming more and more different than who I used to be. Working on understanding my own feelings and acknowledging them as valid because if I don't acknowledge my own feelings, I mean who else will right? Some things I should let go, I think...

I just... you ever felt like you're selecting people and putting them in different circles until there are only one or two closest to you? It's real and probably what is normal, I guess... but the diminishing numbers... it's lonely to see is what it is.

That’s the thing about boundaries: only you get to decide what yours are. It’s possible that you’ve gone so long without having boundaries that you accidentally acquired an unhealthy support system. Now that you are starting to have boundaries some people will make an effort to respect that and other people will continue to blow your boundaries off. Bottom line, friends should respect each other‘s boundaries.

The other part to this though is checking in with yourself about your own expectations of other people, which is another thing only you can answer for yourself since I have no idea what it is exactly that your friend did/does that you find yourself constantly needing to forgive them for.

@Casheyane

@CrazyMusicLover Aww. Sorry to hear that. In my case, the friend apologized and asked for resched but it's way late and I don't know... I was hurt so I made up an excuse and decided not to pursue.

@Casheyane If she writes, I'll see how I'll feel then but now I just feel like a bother so I won't write first.

@CrazyMusicLover Ahh. Take your time. There is this really sad quote from spider-man but im finding it more and more real. It says, "Expect disappoint. You'll never be disappointed. "

It's really sad... but also real. Though I have to point, it kinda lessens chances for happiness.

@SW-User I don't get that. I know someone like that. But I guess I was never really convinced. With forgiveness comes healing, I think. How do you truly forgive without healing?

@Casheyane It's not easy .It's a process . You can forgive and then slowly heal . There will be days you feel fine and days when you don't. Healing will happen in time . Be patient with yourself.

@SW-User forgiveness is for you and also so is distancing yourself from those who aren't good for you

@Zonuss Not to be mean or anything but just a realistic question. If you guys don't talk about it, how would you know if you've offended them in some way or not? If you spend a great time with someone, what are the chances that you're gonna hurt one another be it intentionally or not?

@Casheyane The dynamics of my relationship with my real life friends do not involve such things. It's just not how we communicate or associate with one another. That's how it is.

@Zonuss Your circle of friends feel like a different world from what I know. But if that's how it is and it's alright with you, then each to his own. I hope they serve you well. :)