How often do you forgive your friends? And how do you make it easy?

Do you talk to them if they do something that hurt or offended you? Or do you just go ahead and pretend like you weren't hurt?

If they don't seem to care enough, is it worth trying? I am afraid that forgiveness started to become a hard commodity. But then I know that's wrong. Because I think of the cross, and it's a gift paid for with a life.

When you're forgiven, it becomes easy to forgive. I just have to remind myself of it.

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i have few friends all other are acquaintances.. true friend you love and like even with there faults.. that is what friendship is about . you might get mad at them for a while and you should forgive them also after a while. it is what friendship is about . give and take.
talking about your feelings to them will help for the simple reason they will understand what and why you are acting like you do toward them. be more open to them and it will resolve itself one way or the other. mark

Casheyane · 31-35, F

@markansas But what if it makes you feel small? By being the bigger person, it's like letting them get away. I mean you're right. I love them. I just... I don't know. Maybe I'm being petty? I'm honestly trying to figure out the kind of me I like. It's like I'm chasing her, but the more I put effort to shield myself from getting hurt, the farther the distance between me and her. I'm pretty certain I could do better if I choose love and forgiveness. It's just that protecting oneself means putting barricades, sometimes even with thorns and heights that even makes it hard for me to climb.

markansas

@Casheyane you have answered most of your questions yourself. reread your reply. if its a friend and you open up and they dont like or love you afterwords then was it a friend after all.
only by being open can you know. pain is sometime ripping the bandage off the wound to clean it out. once it is clean it will start to heal. i do wish you the best in this for i have gone threw this myself also. this is what i have learned the hard way . yours mark

Casheyane · 31-35, F

@markansas It's hard. This thing called life and finding friends you want to stick around. But no way am I giving up.

It's just sad... the reality that as we grow older, the lesser chances are to find good friends? Or does it only feel like it now?

markansas

@Casheyane i have less than 10 friends and every one of them has the key to my house . for the simple reason i am gone at the time they can come in and make coffee . sit and watch tv till i get back.. all others are not friends just acquaintances. whom i am friendly with and talk to when i see them.. its better to have a few good friends than lots of people who are not your friend and say they are.. be picky . and as for your second question. the chances of finding good friends never end and i understand how you feel now . it will pass in time and in knowing that it will pass should give you hope.. for everyone needs to have hope in your life. you can chat with me anytime . its ok to do so. and look at my whiteboard there are a few things that i am learning at this time also. you might enjoy them..mark
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Casheyane · 31-35, F

@markansas Thank you Mr. Mark. I appreciate it :) It's refreshing to get really sensible replies. And yours are one of the truest I got here.

markansas

@Casheyane any time.. you can chat with me when you want or need to . mark

Casheyane · 31-35, F

@markansas I'll keep that in mind. Thank you :)