How often do you forgive your friends? And how do you make it easy?

Do you talk to them if they do something that hurt or offended you? Or do you just go ahead and pretend like you weren't hurt?

If they don't seem to care enough, is it worth trying? I am afraid that forgiveness started to become a hard commodity. But then I know that's wrong. Because I think of the cross, and it's a gift paid for with a life.

When you're forgiven, it becomes easy to forgive. I just have to remind myself of it.

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WhateverWorks · 36-40

I think… Everyone makes mistakes on occasion, but if there are things on a regular basis you need to forgive them for then.. it’s probably time to put distance there, especially if you’ve already tried to talk to them about it and it’s still an ongoing issue. It’s ok to not keep problematic people in your sphere of influence.

Casheyane · 31-35, F

@WhateverWorks I know. Big things. But small things... I just feel I'm becoming more and more different than who I used to be. Working on understanding my own feelings and acknowledging them as valid because if I don't acknowledge my own feelings, I mean who else will right? Some things I should let go, I think...

I just... you ever felt like you're selecting people and putting them in different circles until there are only one or two closest to you? It's real and probably what is normal, I guess... but the diminishing numbers... it's lonely to see is what it is.

WhateverWorks · 36-40

That’s the thing about boundaries: only you get to decide what yours are. It’s possible that you’ve gone so long without having boundaries that you accidentally acquired an unhealthy support system. Now that you are starting to have boundaries some people will make an effort to respect that and other people will continue to blow your boundaries off. Bottom line, friends should respect each other‘s boundaries.

The other part to this though is checking in with yourself about your own expectations of other people, which is another thing only you can answer for yourself since I have no idea what it is exactly that your friend did/does that you find yourself constantly needing to forgive them for.

@Casheyane