"You're perfect the way you are" is such a disgusting statement. You have the potential to be much more.

Mmmm. I think you have a point there!

I must admit I'd not thought of that way. It is of course meant nicely but would your second sentence be any better as a compliment?

It rather puts the remark in the same "well-meant-but..." category of back-handed compliments and clumsy attempts at encouragement as, "You can do anything if you only put your mind to it" - a patronisng accusation of idleness.

Indeed, "You have the potential..." and "You can do anything..." say much the same thing!

That's how I feel about the statement "just be kind". It's so cringe and pretentious. As if you an force others to auto be that by compulsion. It's trying to micro manage others to shrink themselves and not speak their truth so you can feel no discomfort or reality.

It's not literal, lol. It means they accept you the way you are presently. Potential has nothing to do with it.

I'm punching above my weight as it is 🥺

Not everyone has lofty goals

That's such b.s

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