I Am Battling Self Harm

I hate it sitting alone crying as blood drips I cut where no one usually can see try and pretend everything is ok but its not I need help but more people try the more I push away. Everytime I cut the skin I scream in both psychical and mental pain

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Coralmist · 41-45, F

One of my favr authors Byron Katie (she used to be suicidal and had extreme depression) .. would ask u this ..(it is her unique method of getting ppl OUT of their minds and heads and 'stories' of what they think they are /need to be):
This would be a sample dialogue of you and what she would say:
YOu: 'I need to feel pain and cut myself.'
Byron: 'Do you absolutely KNOW that you need to feel pain and cut yourself.?'
(most say:No I can't absolutely 'KNOW')
Byron: Ok, how do u feel when u think the thought I need to feel pain?
You: 'Sad, scared..'
Byron: Who would u be WITHOUT that thought?
You: I'd be free, with joy.

Now tell me the TURNAROUND: 'I do NOT need to feel pain or cut myself'
Byron: Good, now what are 3 reasons you do NOT need to feel pain? (then u go into y ourself deep down, and find 3 real reasons why you do not, and THAT is more truth, than the thought that was causing you suffering)

SW-User

@Coralmist Ill try this I hope this helps I hate this feeling

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@SW-User Yes really try it, go through each question she would ask...It has helped countless people, and her questions have really made me see the 'turnaround' most times I've felt sadness or anxiety *hugggg *

SW-User

@Coralmist *hugs* thank you I will really try this it may take me a while to get it to work

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@SW-User Yes you have to write it down, her questions, and then find 3 reasons (which is MORE truth than the 'suffering' thought) why you DO NOT need to feel pain or cut yourself. You can do it 💙

SW-User

@Coralmist thank you