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Hey guys.

I know, I know, this is probably the first time I've posted in like, forever, but I really need some help/advice. I have nowhere else to go..or rather nobody else to talk to so...I've come here.
Okay, so, I'm going to be getting a job (and also doing work experience again in about 2 months time, stress!!). I'm currently working on my CV but the thing is, I'm not a very social person. I mean, I'm obviously going to be lying to the company and more importantly, myself if I say I'm a very good communicator or that I have incredible communication skills. I don't talk very much now, and I'm rather quiet, and keep myself to myself. And tbh, I do like it that way. I know that I have to speak to other people whilst working and stuff but I feel as if I can't really do it. When I speak to others, especially strangers in my neighbourhood, or other places in general, I just go rather quiet (not extreme like whispering, just generally quiet) and then I'm told that I have to speak up which sort of embarrasses me (idk why, just like that). There is also a weird thing that happens when I make eye contact most of the time...too embarrassing to say, sorry. And it's weird because back in high school last year I was pretty talkative (and rather stupid, I know that now) but I think that was only cause I had friends. I do have a few friends now, but I don't hang out with anyone, since I prefer to be on my own. And recently (or probably forever -_-) my parents are saying that I can "barely speak properly" because when I speak to them I am apparently very quiet. Maybe I only talk confidently with people I'm comfortable with?
Well anyway, enough about my life story.
If anyone has any advice, please comment/message me, whatever.
I just really need some advice right now.
And if you've made it up to here, and genuinely read this, thank you.
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billytex1 · 70-79, M Best Comment
the best advice is always honesty - as one who has hired lots of people, I'd much rather have someone be really honest - especially about what they're not good at - then have them not be honest, discover that the hard way, and have to fire them - especially if the trait of themselves they weren't honest about is one that's critical to performing the job they were hired for.

Buck up - be truthful, honest, and up front - let them know you're not a really open 'people person' right away with strangers you don't know - it'll be a lot better for you and your potential employer.

As to the eye contact thing - that's usually read by almost everyone as a sign of deception - is it something from childhood? However you got it - try to work on it - if you're being truthful with someone, you should be able to look right at them, without any fear.

good luck!
@billytex1: thank you very much, I appreciate your help and the eye contact thing, it's not a sign of deception at all, I'm actually a pretty honest person.
I think most of the time, I can't really look people in the eye constantly, maybe because I feel like their eyes are burning into my soul, haha..just kidding 😓
Okay, it's just probably that I sometimes feel as if they'll think I'm lying about something when I haven't or I'll feel guilty for no actual reason or I'll feel like I'll be caught for something I never did (i know, pretty stupid). I think to sum it up, it's..intimidating? I have very low self esteem and so I don't think very highly of myself. And as for the truthful thing, if I do get an interview, I'll make sure to tell them that, thank you!
Also, I can't believe you're an employer! Oh wow >~<