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Hey guys.

I know, I know, this is probably the first time I've posted in like, forever, but I really need some help/advice. I have nowhere else to go..or rather nobody else to talk to so...I've come here.
Okay, so, I'm going to be getting a job (and also doing work experience again in about 2 months time, stress!!). I'm currently working on my CV but the thing is, I'm not a very social person. I mean, I'm obviously going to be lying to the company and more importantly, myself if I say I'm a very good communicator or that I have incredible communication skills. I don't talk very much now, and I'm rather quiet, and keep myself to myself. And tbh, I do like it that way. I know that I have to speak to other people whilst working and stuff but I feel as if I can't really do it. When I speak to others, especially strangers in my neighbourhood, or other places in general, I just go rather quiet (not extreme like whispering, just generally quiet) and then I'm told that I have to speak up which sort of embarrasses me (idk why, just like that). There is also a weird thing that happens when I make eye contact most of the time...too embarrassing to say, sorry. And it's weird because back in high school last year I was pretty talkative (and rather stupid, I know that now) but I think that was only cause I had friends. I do have a few friends now, but I don't hang out with anyone, since I prefer to be on my own. And recently (or probably forever -_-) my parents are saying that I can "barely speak properly" because when I speak to them I am apparently very quiet. Maybe I only talk confidently with people I'm comfortable with?
Well anyway, enough about my life story.
If anyone has any advice, please comment/message me, whatever.
I just really need some advice right now.
And if you've made it up to here, and genuinely read this, thank you.
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firefall · 61-69, M
OK, well, one thing might be, get practiced at talking to others again, by forcing yourself into a somewhat social hobby - its something that constant lowlevel practice WILL enhance your skills.

Alternatively, look for jobs where you work solo or (ideally) from home, where you can limit social interactions to email & msg'ing.

And when putting together a resume, don't comment on your communications skills at all, but use words to describe your close focus & concentration on the task, and how you can ignore social distractions.
@firefall: Thank you, I find this helpful.