Need some advice

I have a friend whose dog passed away two weeks ago. She had gotten a divorce a couple years ago and that dog was her world. When it first happened I texted her a couple days in a row just to.make sure she was ok. She has basically shut herself off from the world. Posted a photo of the dog as her profile photo on her facebook page but did not announce the passing. The third time I texted, I basically said I dont want to be a pest so just know I care, my heart goes out to you and if you need to talk Im a phone call away. She responded saying thanks Chuck I appreciate that. Its been almost two weeks now. Should I call to see how she is? Should I text? I dont know what to do.

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PoetryNEmotion · F

I would call her. That dog was her constsnt companion. She is alone now. It is often after a few weeks that people no longer make efforts to be available for those who sre grieving. You are kind. Please drop by her home. Check in person. Being there certainly helps.

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PoetryNEmotion · F

@chuck7882 Good. You are a caring friend. Do keep her in contact. She is all alone.

chuck7882 · 61-69, M

@PoetryNEmotion I actually do have feelings beyond friendship for her. She was my college crush. But her divorce really did a number on her mentally and now this. I'm trying to not put any pressure on her to take our friendship beyond that, so I am very careful about keeping it just that. At least until I can sense she might be looking for a relationship as well

PoetryNEmotion · F

@chuck7882 I figured you did because you posted and it seems you are attracted. Take it ever so slow. Diborce is hard even when the partner was rotten. She will turn to you in time. You seem kind. Good luck.

chuck7882 · 61-69, M

Just to update, she actually called ME today to see how I was doing! Of course I immediately told her that I was concerned about her but didnt want to be a pest. She thanked me for that and said she had really been depressed and didnt want to talk to anybody but she said she missed talking to me.

IAmJess · 22-25, F

Pretty sure she knows you are there. I get into quiet phases sometimes and the last thing I want is someone constantly reminding me that they are there. She knows. 🤷‍♀

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IAmJess · 22-25, F

@chuck7882 do I have to get used to it? Can't I just go back to school?

chuck7882 · 61-69, M

@IAmJess I actually know some people who kept going back to grad school because they just missed going to school so much

IAmJess · 22-25, F

@chuck7882 sounds like a plan! 😁

PrincessVelvet · F

That's always tough. I don't think there is anything else that needs to be said. You could think about sending a small gesture like a memorial stone or a keepsake.

MrBrownstone · 46-50, M

I would give her more time. Can take some people long time to come to terms.

Lilnonames · F

find a same dog and get it for her

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