Looking for valuable advice. (CONTAINS S/A MENTION)
Need advice on how to appproach this
Now, I met this neurodivergent boy (We'll call him L) in Primary school. He used to be in my school's after-school childcare service and that's where I first knew him from. (I left the childcare about 2 years later)
One day, I saw him asking other students around to help him call his aunt, who was supposed to pick him up; the problem was, he didn't have a phone, and had no idea where she was. Taking pity on him because of how everyone was refusing, I offered him my lending hand. He was grateful towards my kind gesture, and started calling me his 'friend'. I wanted to be nice to him (TAKE NOTE: being nice is DIFFERENT to being kind.), so I played along with the whole friend thing.
However, once I went up to Secondary school a year ago, he got my number and we started talking. But he didn't understand my boundaries, and even when he said 'Okay', he still kept calling me through Whatsapp and asking for a video call. I felt that was enough and blocked him eventually.
After not seeing him for another whole year, i bumped into him on the way home in the bus (he takes the same bus home as me) and he was like 'Next time, we'll be good friends and then best friends', you know.
Now, the reason as to why I've been avoiding him was because of the said rumour that he had kissed a girl in Primary 2. Another reason could be that I've just been watching too many s/a vent videos and know too much about it, and don't want to go through that horror. It just sounds painful and traumatic, and I know very well Iwouldn't be able to live through it if something bad happened.
I've told a friend about it, and she told me that her friend which was in the same school as him, had been touched by him on the thigh. she's also told me that her first encounter with him was a bit weird, as he kept pointing at her and telling her friends to look at her and how pretty she is.
I've told my mum about this and she told me straightaway to go and file a police report against him, but I told her no, because I still feel bad due to his neurodivergence. However, like what she had told me, the law doesn't bend as much for neurodivergency. If you have broken a law, you've broken a law, and that's that.
Now, I'm stuck in a dilemma. Should I straight up file a report against him, wait to see whether the time is right, or confront him sternly and hope he will leave me alone? I'm in dire need of help, because I feel thhat the third option would be right. But I'll still need advice from you guys. How would you handle my situation?
I'm also planning to consult my form teacher about this.
Now, I met this neurodivergent boy (We'll call him L) in Primary school. He used to be in my school's after-school childcare service and that's where I first knew him from. (I left the childcare about 2 years later)
One day, I saw him asking other students around to help him call his aunt, who was supposed to pick him up; the problem was, he didn't have a phone, and had no idea where she was. Taking pity on him because of how everyone was refusing, I offered him my lending hand. He was grateful towards my kind gesture, and started calling me his 'friend'. I wanted to be nice to him (TAKE NOTE: being nice is DIFFERENT to being kind.), so I played along with the whole friend thing.
However, once I went up to Secondary school a year ago, he got my number and we started talking. But he didn't understand my boundaries, and even when he said 'Okay', he still kept calling me through Whatsapp and asking for a video call. I felt that was enough and blocked him eventually.
After not seeing him for another whole year, i bumped into him on the way home in the bus (he takes the same bus home as me) and he was like 'Next time, we'll be good friends and then best friends', you know.
Now, the reason as to why I've been avoiding him was because of the said rumour that he had kissed a girl in Primary 2. Another reason could be that I've just been watching too many s/a vent videos and know too much about it, and don't want to go through that horror. It just sounds painful and traumatic, and I know very well Iwouldn't be able to live through it if something bad happened.
I've told a friend about it, and she told me that her friend which was in the same school as him, had been touched by him on the thigh. she's also told me that her first encounter with him was a bit weird, as he kept pointing at her and telling her friends to look at her and how pretty she is.
I've told my mum about this and she told me straightaway to go and file a police report against him, but I told her no, because I still feel bad due to his neurodivergence. However, like what she had told me, the law doesn't bend as much for neurodivergency. If you have broken a law, you've broken a law, and that's that.
Now, I'm stuck in a dilemma. Should I straight up file a report against him, wait to see whether the time is right, or confront him sternly and hope he will leave me alone? I'm in dire need of help, because I feel thhat the third option would be right. But I'll still need advice from you guys. How would you handle my situation?
I'm also planning to consult my form teacher about this.
13-15, F