Advice for a friend

I assume they're both young.
Sounds like the sort of thing that fits a younger persons thinking.

Child rearing is hard work !
Trust me I did it with three under 6 !

If you have a parent that is immature and can't differentiate between what needs to be done for the benefit of your children and wanting your own carefree life, then let them go.

Last thing you need is to have to care for an older child who will always have the power to walk anytime life gets tough or they don't get their own way.

But don't think that just because they walk today that's the end of it. Because it won't be !
If they have told their own parents about it, you can be sure he'll be back contesting that decision at some point.
The power of the Grandparents to suddenly make their wayward kids 'take responsibility' is bigger than you might think !
And the worst kind of parent is the 'I wanna be responsible today but maybe not tomorrow'. Because children need reliable parents 24/7. Even if they hate each other !

I guess what I'm saying is that whatever decisions you make today be aware that life moves pretty quick and people can change if they're under stress or if they realise they have family support they didn't realize they could count on before.

Relationships can be stressful. Even for older people who have children.
So try not to be too judgemental.
After all you're both trying to find a way to make this work.
As long as you keep the idea of what's best for the children at the centre of everything you do you won't go far wrong.

Simply put... Junior will be happier and healthier without someone in his life who doesn't want to be there.

Any man can be a dad - it takes someone special to be a father. I learned that from watching my brothers raise their step children.

I can’t stand the term, “baby daddy”. It sounds like a cultural plight of acceptance where a poor woman meets a useless “man”.

Have some pride. Dump him before you’re pregnant. Children deserve better.

First comes the ring then comes marriage and when that's done one can get a baby carriage...

Tell your friend to learn from her mistake and do things in the right sequence..

Tell her if she does not get a lawyer to sue his ass for child support until the kid is at least 18........she's a moron and a bad mother.

This happened to me when I was 18

Quit crying over a loser. It’s his loss and no one else’s.

The child will grow up just fine.

If the father is choosing not to be part of his son’s life, there’s not a lot the mother can do besides making sure he still pays child support. That he’s obligated to do most places, regardless of his personal feelings.

She should be happy that her son won't grow up with a deadbeat as a role model then.