I need advice what to do.. Hello! I heard i could vent on here.. anyways i need an advice what...

Pretzel · 61-69, M

he's toast

moved in too quickly
gave it up too quickly
he's looking for his next hookup

it will only get worse.

leave
now
quickly
while he's at work

PicturesOfABetterTomorrow · 41-45, M

A couple things.

Making you delete male friends is a huge red flag of someone with jealousy and control issues.

His current behavior is that of a guy who is probably cheating.

And allowing you to suddenly chat with other guys seems like either guilt for doing something shady himself.

Or he is doing something shady and allowing you to chat with other guys to create a situation where he can create a false equivalence later.

Any way you look at it things are not looking good.

LookingForIt987 · 51-55, M

he made me delete all my male friends during the beginning of our relationship

This is a HUGE red flag for you in any relationship, as this is the move of either an abuser or somebody with extreme jealousy issues. Run, not walk, from any relationship - including this one! - where this is "required" of you.

HootyTheNightOwl

You're going to need trust in a relationship - and a part of trust is healthy boundaries.

You're going to talk to other men and he's going to talk to other women... you both need to accept that fact and agree that talking to people of the opposite gender doesn't mean jumping into bed with him/her.

As for the phone... talk to him and explain (in a non confrontational way) what you think it looks like and how it makes you feel. It could just be coincidental and you are blowing it out of proportion - so give him the chance to either confess or reassure you.

Xicsukin · M

If you're not on equel terms then their is no hope. That she long and the short of it. It's bad and it's toxic, you'll spend the whole time second guessing everything. It's not healthy to be paranoid about your partner.

Strict4u · 56-60, M

If he don’t trust you to have male friends run he will try to control everything you do the longer y’all are together

Alison · 18-21, F

Look lotta 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 there.
Id just walk TBH.
You can do better❤️

em1ly · 18-21, F

First of all, if he told you to cut off all contact with your male friends but he is still friends with his ex's that's a RED FLAG.
I think this whole scenario is kinda fishy. Confront him about this and keep us updated lol

DHggmu · 31-35, M

Its easy to make these assumptions based on the info you have given, but there’s some red flags there. Making you delete friends is controlling, hiding his phone is suspicious.

Fawma123 · 46-50, M

He sounds like a control freak

SW-User

Always good to trust your instincts.

alan20 · M

I'd take it easy. Try to chat. Maybe make it clear that you care for him but are not into controlling relationships on either side. Some feel they need monogamous sexual relationships, others not.

anythingoes477 · M

Other than fucking your brains out in the beginning.....my guess is he never had any interest in you to lose. Especially knowing he kept his contacts the whole time.

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Max41 · 26-30, M

You are not his partner but his personal dustbin .

ninalanyon · 61-69, T

Time for you to think of moving on.

1pebbles · 56-60, F

Trust your gut

basilfawlty89 · 31-35, M

That sounds suspicious and controlling.
I'd run personally.

bijouxbroussard · F

You see what the consensus has been. Five months is too quick to be letting someone insist that you dump all your male friends. And clearly he’s making new female ones. When one suspects someone is losing interest, unfortunately, those instincts are often correct. Time to move on.

MonaReeves86 · 36-40, F

He’s found another he’s not interested in you anymore I’d move out