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Does age matter when it comes to advising someone (about life)?

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So my older sister and I had a little argument. She is 2 years older than me and she keeps telling me not tell her what to do in her life (which I don't think I did, more like of an advise). She is in Europe, away from the family and alone. She just started working there for a few months. I would always tell her to take care and to save for herself and remind her to be financially stable as she is alone in there. I never asked her for anything in return as I don't really want to rely on her. I want her to have the best things in the world. But she keeps telling me that I am not old enough to advise her or tell her what to do. She also wants me to address her friends with honorifics (in our country, we address older people with honorifics or titles, but not really required).

Anyway, I am one of the persons in this world that believes that age doesn't really matter to advise someone in his or her life, (edit: although experiences indeed matter). In my defense, I told her that we are only 2 years old apart and I do believe that we have different companies in life (I mostly work and have friends who are a lot older than me, while her friends are just her age or a little older), like even if she's older, our experiences in life isn't really apart. So what do you guys think? What are your thoughts about the subject?

EDIT: All opinions are welcome. Not fishing for people who will agree with me, just to be clear.
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TxRocker · 46-50, M
Age doesn't equal wisdom, people learn differently, but as for your relationship with ur sister, I'd say "butt out" she's of age and can make her own decisions... Respect her for that, she may surprise you... If we all danced the same to the beat of a drum, how boring life would be. ;) hope this helps Rocker
fruitspunch · 36-40, F
well, I'm not commanding her to do anything, it's more of an advise. I respect her as a person and her decisions. Of course, she can do whatever she please, but hey, advises are free.
TxRocker · 46-50, M
Apparently your "advise" as you put it is not welcome. If your forcing your advice on her and she doesn't want it "stop" or you will be seen as a person who's butting in... Don't push your sister away.. Because if I were in her shoes, I'd egnore you for as long as it took, for you to get the message.. Live your life and quit being a busy body.. I'm trying to help you here... As a sibling, a brother, and a friend.. Some of us have been through this before, you wanted advise, and then you won't take it... It sounds like you want people to agree with you, but we don't ;)
fruitspunch · 36-40, F
@TxRocker: well, i am not forcing her on anything. I was just trying to tell her to establish herself in there, i dont see anything wrong with that, but if you do, then it's perfectly fine. I don't want people to agree with me, I want to know how people would think if they were on my shoes. If you are thinking that I'm fishing for support here, well you are mistaken. I know we have our own way of thinking and I respect that. Some people will agree with me and some like you don't and that's perfectly fine. There are no right answers on this. And I think you misunderstood that I am pushing her away, well I don't. I don't see why I am going to push her away when we are not together anymore. All opinions are welcome in my question. 😉
TxRocker · 46-50, M
You see the fact that you don't see how your actions aren't welcome by your sister, that's the whole problem... I can't believe you don't understand that ????
fruitspunch · 36-40, F
@TxRocker: I see that clearly, that's why I stopped talking about it and changed the subject when we talk. I am aware that she doesn't want me tell her what to do. But IMO, her reason is because I am younger than her is a bit not fair . I would accept it if she told me that it's her life to live. When she tells me what to do and I don't agree with her, she will get upset about it and will bring up her being older that's why she knows best. Although I didnt say it in the question, my issue is I'm 2 years young to "tell"/advise
her what to do, and she is 2 years older than me "tell" me what to do, which to me is unfair. But im asking people in general if people thinks age matters in giving life advises. Plus, couldn't find a right catalogue so I just chose "seeking advise".
TxRocker · 46-50, M
Sweetie, this dynamic between you and her was set up many years ago, you will quit getting treated like little sis when you stop giving her the power to look down on you. Quit seeking her approval you will never get it. Start being and doing your own thing, and quit asking for approval, it's your life just go live it...