As adults is it okay to just decide to leave the family who has helped and you have been helping for the past 3 years? Because your unhappy living

GO. JFC you're in your 30's;just go.It's high time you went out on your own.The whole family will be better for it.

Yes, because you are not really responsible for them.

Avoid emotional blackmail.

Emotional blackmail and FOG are terms, popularized by psychotherapist Susan Forward, about controlling people in relationships and the theory that fear, obligation, and guilt are the transactional dynamics at play between the controller and the person being controlled.

no go make your own life and family

Get your stuff and get the hell out.

Yes. Go live your own life.

As an adult you are definitely allowed to live where you like and with who you like. If you want to start fresh someplace new with your soon to be husband that should be encouraged by all that care about you two. Living far away has never been easier as far as video calling, planes, trains, ship etc I have family spread across the globe we all love each other but we enjoy seeing what each other is doing in their neck of the woods.

Yes. You have the right to go live your lives.