What are some sure ways to boost my self-confidence?

Here's the thing, whenever someone projects negativity about say me or my work I recoil and begin to have self-doubt whereas I should fight to defend my corner...or shouldn't I? What are your thoughts?

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TwiddlerofThumbs · F

You don't always have to fight to defend your corner, you can always go the route of just not giving a damn what they think. Not always easy, I'm well aware. Sometimes it is good to listen to their nonsense and then question yourself, figure out why they are right/ wrong... and eventually you can stand up for yourself with reason. And that makes all the difference. being able to look at them and let them know why they are wrong and having solid cause to stand your ground is a really nice feeling. stating facts as apposed to arguing or just telling them they are wrong with no basis for your argument, usually doesn't do anything more than get them to hurl more insults.

Portia · 41-45

@TwiddlerofThumbs I guess this is what I should learn to do. These answers are good for some self-reflection. Thank you!

TwiddlerofThumbs · F

@Portia Taking the time to figure out why they are wrong is helpful to your own self worth too - you can show you that you have value and are not what they claim you are.
I grew up believing that if someone doesn't like something it is my fault. It's taken most of my life to figure out that I can have an opinion and do things others don't like and its ok.

Portia · 41-45

@TwiddlerofThumbs wow this makes so much sense I think I'm programmed to think like that too 😲

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Portia · 41-45

@TwiddlerofThumbs 😳I see what you mean!