say someone that hasn't spoken to you in years contracts you to see how are you, what do you think?
36-40, M
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SW-User
This just happened to me. My stepfather contacted me after not a word for years. He says he misses me terribly and has been so worried about me. 🙄 Sure he does/has.
AllelujahHaptism · 36-40, M
@SW-User what are you gonna do?
SW-User
@AllelujahHaptism He contacted me via FB Messenger and asked for my number. I told him he could continue contacting me through messenger or my P.O. Box... but he could not have my phone number. Then he asked if we could meet up.... so he can see my kids. I said no, IF we meet, it will be without my kids. They don't need him coming and going in/out of their lives. He says he'll contact me again. We'll see....
AllelujahHaptism · 36-40, M
@SW-User sounds complicated
SW-User
@AllelujahHaptism My life is complicated, lol. It's about setting boundaries. I'm not just going to let him waltz back into my life. This man abused me in every way as a child and teen. But...there are things I need to say to him and face in order for me to move forward.
AllelujahHaptism · 36-40, M
SW-User
@AllelujahHaptism I will. Thank you.
SW-User
@BrattyMel Thank you, Mel. I have to, you know? 🤗
BrattyMel · 31-35, F
@SW-User I think it is very important that he knows how you feel about what he did to you. He hurt you in ways NO one has the right to do and in ways NO one deserves. Whether or not he takes accountability for his actions, is up to him, but if it releases you from it all and helps you move on, do it!
SW-User
@BrattyMel He won't. I know he won't. But it doesn't matter.... it's for me, so that I can move forward. I would've left things alone since I never talk to him. But now that he's contacted me and is acting like nothing ever happened...I mean, he literally asked "is there a problem?" When I said I'd come without my kids. Ummm yeah there's a problem. I have four girls and you're a man who sexually, physically, and psychologically abused me. You bet there's a problem! You're not coming near my girls, mofo....
