Need good ideas for responding to my husband cheating

@Subsumedpat 👎

It is your life of course but I still think seeking redress to put things on a new path is ok but not revenge. Remember what Confucius said, “Before you embark on a journey of revenge, dig two graves,” what does it mean to you? To me, it means that if you’re seeking revenge, you might as well destroy, not only the other person or persons, but also yourself. Because, in that journey of revenge, as you vibrate at the negative frequency associated with it, you doom yourself and your future prospects along with it.

I know. I know. Here’s what you’re thinking. You were so wronged in such a massive way, that you’re completely within your rights to seek revenge. I get it. I can’t attest to every situation and every situation is different, along with the person that it impacts. But I can tell you that if you do go the revenge route, you’re destined for failure. It will come back around to you, even if the other person or persons completely deserves it. Just don’t seek revenge.

While I am quoting people don't forget what Shakespeare said, "If you prick us do we not bleed? If you tickle us do we not laugh? If you poison us do we not die? And if you wrong us shall we not revenge?" Shakespeare clearly thought revenge was as normal and predictable as the sun rising. So remember when you get him back he will be looking to get you back in some way. Which leads me to what Gandhi said, An eye for an eye ends up only making the whole world blind.

I have read stories where people waited years and years to get someone back and during that time just stewed over it and the result was everyone lost. Maybe he is not that kind of person, you would know better than I. Maybe he will accept your revenge and say to himself that he deserved it but I doubt it cause that is not how people normally think.

Gandhi is well known for cheating on his wife.

@eatpraylove Maybe that is how he learned about revenge.

i will make him pay and no one will stop me.

@eatpraylove OK, just don't be surprised if it does not provide the satisfaction you thought it would or that he gets you back for it.

i am pretty sure i will enjoy not only getting our house on the lake, but i have been meaning to learn how to drive his precious boat that i am going to own, and maybe i will bring a date on it and since my husband doesn't allow shoes on the boat maybe i will send a picture of my date on his boat with shoes on. after i own it i mean. and feel my bank account is about to get fatter. and i wonder if with a house on a lake and a boat and i only weigh 100 pounds, maybe just maybe i can get a younger man to pay attention to me.....hmmmmm i wonder how that will make my husband feel? maybe just maybe he will wish he did not cheat on me with a big chested whore? maybe?
go ahead and call me angry. i don't care. he will pay and if you try to get in my way i will make you pay too.

@eatpraylove damn.. get him!! take that pic of the guy in shoes, ONLY wearing shoes!! :)

@eatpraylove Well I guess that might be fun and I have no doubt you could attract someone. I am 32 and well, well lets just say you look hot as a firecracker to me.