@IceQueen I was thinking of asking my primary care physician at Kaiser. Maybe Kaiser has social workers...?

@monster007 I learned a lot about care places when I had to find one for my mother about 20 years ago. Although you are basically right about many of them, some are quite a bit better than others. If I am not sure, I will simply stay where I am indefinitely.

Those day centers are crowded cement block rooms with a lot of seniors with Alzheimer's sitting in wheel chairs and a couple of checkerboards. I am ambulatory, have all my faculties and do not even take any regular medications. I don't belong there.

What I need help with is...I am lonely, have no kids, siblings or other close relatives, most of my friends are at least a thousand miles away. I need to be someplace where I am not alone, and where I can get some help in an emergency. It can be sad and scary to awake at night alone knowing no one will help you if you are sick. There are a lot of little things I can barely do now, and I risk getting hurt if I do them, things like lifting boxes, or hanging pictures, or getting up on ladders to change a lightbulb, or getting down on my hands and knees to scrub my floor.

You have posted a picture of my worst fears, of course. I will be careful and will not be making any hasty decisions.

Also, you might want to know that my mother liked the wonderful home I found for her and lived there happily for 10 years. For various reasons, that home will not work for me. But if I search, I may be able to find one that could.

@greenmountaingal I guess u should search for a day centre not care home... I think one way or another we all feel lonely no matter what age...

@Rhonda Can't afford it. I live in one room in a rooming house.

@RippinKlouds I can't afford a lot of home care. I do have health insurance through Kaiser. I don't need a lot of care, and I want to live around other people.

@luv2fly352 No, I'm not. I'm a retired school teacher.