Well, it's kind of complicated...

So, it's kind of a friendship issue, I guess. I have two main friend groups, internet and in-person. And the problem, I guess? I'm having is kind of similar in each situation. It's around the topic of best friends.

In my in-person group, I've had two best friends that were from two different friend groups that have now merged together. And there's one who I talk to more, etc, and I've come to a conclusion that may be my best friend at the moment as opposed to the other one. But the thing is, the one who I've partially drifted from is someone who I've known for much longer, and I wouldn't want to hurt her. So that's a problem.

Then there's the internet friend problem. I'm in a great group of 6, and we all get along great. The thing is, everyone in the group seems to be better friends with each other than I am with any of them, and I feel kind of isolated or like a burden. I want to make advancements to maybe, I guess, strengthen my friendships with any of them but I have social problems, I'll try to continue a conversation too long, and I don't want to end up as less of a friend and more of a creepy obsessor-person (this is a problem for me because a couple of them are pretty well-known on instagram for their art and such and are in fact, dealing with obsessive fangirls at the time).

I just feel overall left out, scared, and confused. I just want to know what to do. If anyone out there could help me with anything that I mentioned at all, I would love it. Thank you so much.

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ItsAllAboutLove · F

It could be, based up on the words you typed here, and as you are still extremely young, that it might just be a thought, an impression, that those other internet friends have a closer friendship than you do with each of them. You'll have to remember always that youcan't ever force a friendship, or force a closer friendship, with anyone. This counts for as well friends in real life, as internet friends. Also, you have to remember that in life: friends will come and go, and each friend will bring a story to your life. Once you meet new friends you will know why there were in your life, but this insight only comes with age when you get older. I wouldn't worry too much about this. Please don't feel scared. There is no need to feel scared. Whenever you have a certain emotion, thought, feeling about a friend (as well real life as internet friend), you need to be as honest as you can be with this person. Always. No matter what age. Honesty makes a friendship closer, and also being on the same wavelength makes a friendship closer. When you feel like you're bothering someone, just ask them "I'm sorry, am I talking too much? I don't mean to bother you.. Please tell me if I am." If there's anything you want to see changed within yourself to create better friendships, just ask them about it. Like "I feel like something is getting in the way for making this friendship a closer one. Is it something I have said or done? Then please tell me so. I'll try to work on it then, but I have to know what I should work on before I can improve our friendship." And for some friends you'll just 'know' if things will go the right or wrong direction. Just follow your heart, your feelings, and most of all ENJOY the friendships you have now. Don't overthink about it, don't worry too much about it, have fun while you can, because usually after school, then you'll know who your real friends are. Some people won't stay in touch with you anymore, and some will. And that all depends on the two people together, about their honesty and commitment to the friendship. It will all work out.

YesMan · 36-40, M

No matter what others say, real life friendship is way more serious than internet one. everyone can be anyone they want on the net. With that said, I think you and your RL friend with whom you drifted apart, should get closer.

P.S. There's no such thing as "best friend". I thought otherwise but I've been proved waaay too many times to believed in it anymore. When you grow up, things change dramatically, so be prepared and don't think about being left out - you're 13-15, not 30, it's still easy for you to make friends and eventually you'll find someone who will be a perfect fit for you. Best of luck, sister.

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