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I'm not feeling too good right now.
It all started last night right before midnight.
My bro lives in cali and called mom screaming saying his gf called the cops on him and he won't give back her car keys so can go home. Idk if the police part was real but I overheard her saying he ripped her dress.
After almost 30 minutes of telling him over the phone just let her go home, if she doesn't wanna speak to u anymore why are u so hung up on it, and give her back her car keys, he finally did it.
I haven't heard from him all day today. Today is his bday and I'm afraid to text or call to wish him a happy bday. He has an anger problem and I'm scared he will call again screaming.
He's supposed to come visit us this coming Thurs and stay for 3 nights but with all that happened, I don't want him to come. He's violent, he's got a rage issue, and he's hit me and my mom before. I'm afraid he may do it again if he comes here.
I don't know what to do. I don't want him to think I don't love him but if I text him he may think it's an opportunity to harass us again in the middle of the night.
I did not eat. I am not happy today and it's very obvious to everyone.
I just need someone to tell me if it'll be ok or not. I'm scared.
SoFine · 46-50, F
Dysfunction is very common.
When rage is present, DON'T TALK. ....you will make it worse.

Write him a letter from the heart, tell him you love him, when he is with rage, you will keep your distance.

His coping skills are lacking, till he can cope, stay away. Try not to buy into the drama, drama is a Rabit Hole, draws one in.

We can't tell you that it will be Ok. We don't know.
seeandhear · M
You have to keep in mind being in different states you can do only so much. If neither one of them listens and if they both don’t calm down you can’t do anything.
However things will work out. You must not worry yourself about something you cannot help.

Again things will work out.
MovieMusicGal · 31-35, F
[@485959,seeandhear] thank u. Ur right, there's only so much I can do but I'm hoping he cools down and realizes that this girl he was seeing was trouble (not that she was bad, but her situation) due to all her baggage that she came with.
seeandhear · M
[@688404,NerdyGeekGirl] It sounds like an explosive situation and maybe they push each other’s buttons. But again that’s something you cannot control.

You’re doing the best you can.
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What can be done so he doesn't come visit?
I wouldn't call or text him right now
He needs to cool down big time
MovieMusicGal · 31-35, F
[@587991,DarkSky] I hope so too. Like I said, if he says he isn't coming, I won't care if I lose the money. I rather lose the money than have him come here and make us live in fear
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[@688404,NerdyGeekGirl] I agree..... be strong though.... I know you're stronger than you realize
MovieMusicGal · 31-35, F
I appreciate it and thank u for helping me feel a bit calmer. I really needed it.
Intissima · F
Sending you hugs.
You can only do so much for someone. After that they have to want to help themselves.
But don’t neglect when taking care of others. Prioritise yourself.
And please eat 🥪
Serenitree · F
Rent him a room at a motel. Tell him he scares you and you don't want him around you.
MovieMusicGal · 31-35, F
[@4431,Serenitree] even if we did, he still would be coming over and spending the day in the house w us. I don't want him to come, period. Let him stay there.
Serenitree · F
[@688404,NerdyGeekGirl] I hope he will.
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MovieMusicGal · 31-35, F
No i wish he did. He has this idea that he's God's greatest gift and that no rules apply to him. He thinks he can do whatever he wants.
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MovieMusicGal · 31-35, F
I'm gonna need a prescription for that. Or even a high dose of Xanax. Just so he can say nothing all 3 days.

 
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