I need advice for this situation.

I'm 33, I am lonely. In high school I didn't date anybody and I've always been a geek (I didn't want to consider myself one then though). I have OCD, I do over plan things. I picture various relationship scenarios some of which involve being with a girl in my age range. I've pictured being with a girl who was from a different clique than me but would've gotten along with me. I have obsessive tendencies however, recently I saw something about breakups on 90s TV shows and Zack and Kelly from Saved by the Bell were listed. I never watched that show and I do think Kelly is pretty. I looked the show up and read that she was the most popular girl in school. I have pictured being with a girl who was popular in high school but wouldn't have shunned me. I also read that the character Kelly was a good person most of the time. I'm trying to stop over planning situations such as the background of my future girlfriend/wife and just let it happen. I don't want to be tied down to a high school way of thinking. I however do want my future significant other to have some differences from me as long as they don't conflict with me. I have standards such as a I want a Christian woman.

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Girlyfriendcollecting · F

So if your trying to get help for the ocd try getting a therapist and leave medication to a last resort. If you need help finding a wife then its a numbers game ask many women out it might be hard to find someone spesifically christian but you might end up finding someone with the values you want who is not christian. I am married I found my husband at work and I have never been asked out by a guy men just dont ask women out anymore i asked my husband out thats why we are married. He has social anxiety. A nother thing that might work is speed dating events they dont even have to be in your area because women are often willing to move for a relationship good guys are that hard to find. Or have your friends and family set you up. The biggest problem women run into is they dont get asked out so you would stand out. Sorry for the long response i was not sure what kind of answer you are looking for.

CoolUsername · 26-30, F

You're an adult man who wants to be with an adult woman so a great start is to stop referring to adult woman as girls, it's unappealing.I would also suggest that you try therapy if that is something you can afford. It helped me overcome my social anxiety and overthinking.

YoMomma ·

Did you not date anyone because you were too shy to ask or because they refused to talk to you? Sometimes we try to go for people out of our league but they don't want us so its important to learn why and understand why we want things in the first place.. in life we can have plans but life has it own plans sometimes .. it’s good to be reasonable tho and plan according to reality . People from different groups and bracket can be attracted to each other you just have to find someone who is interested in you.. and likes you for you.

Tastyfrzz · 61-69, M

So basically, you have no people skills. You only know how to play video games and you were made to go to church and be indoctrinated. You probably only "know" that you are straight. You need to unlearn a bunch of stuff and be willing to accept people as they really are. You need to know how to be emotionally available. How to show empathy. How to be fun to be around. How to be unbiased.

Levenrack · 46-50, M

Hey. So... what are you actually asking here, cause I lost track about 1 minute into reading?

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