How do you deal with bitter feelings? [I Need Advice]

I had a ex-friend who did me wrong. I don't want to get into the full story but this person degraded and threatened me. Today I've moved away from this person and no longer speak to them but I see pictures on facebook and hear about them. My past with this ex-friend keeps me up at night. I get angry. I feel bitter and resentful. They seem to be happy and enjoying life. There's a part of me that struggles to see them be okay when they never tried to apologize for what they did to me. How do I let go of this situation? I just want to forget about how I was treated but I have such deep, negative feelings towards them. I've thought about therapy but I don't know.

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NiftyWhite · 46-50, F

I went through something similar with an ex bf. I closed the fb account and opened a new one. I hated how memories come up and how we had mutual friends and his family was on my fb. I just wanted a new start.

I considered moving/relocating but didn’t. I think it would have been helpful. He lived very close to me and that was hard to cope with.

I changed my clothes and my appearance as much as I could. Donated all my old clothes and went t a thrift store to get a new stash. Wanted a new start and this helped somehow. It was part of me that wasn’t also a part of him.

I was exhausting my friends and it seemed to be a “bad look” on me anyway always complaining and trying to cope so I found this place - this was great for venting and yet keeping public composure. Also I joined dating sites - not for dating, but for venting. I was honest about why I was there. Friendship only They were free and quite local and to this day, I have kept many friends who respect me and likewise. I just needed someone to talk to that never knew me, never knew him.

I didn’t find therapy was very useful. Mind you I was grieving a death at the same time so i had other issues too.

Do what you can to forget this person and erase any evidence from your surroundings and your life that they ever existed like belongings or gifts they gave you - BYE! Get rid of photos too. After that pass time in productive ways and keep busy. Keep a journal to vent to.