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How do you deal with bitter feelings? [I Need Advice]

I had a ex-friend who did me wrong. I don't want to get into the full story but this person degraded and threatened me. Today I've moved away from this person and no longer speak to them but I see pictures on facebook and hear about them. My past with this ex-friend keeps me up at night. I get angry. I feel bitter and resentful. They seem to be happy and enjoying life. There's a part of me that struggles to see them be okay when they never tried to apologize for what they did to me. How do I let go of this situation? I just want to forget about how I was treated but I have such deep, negative feelings towards them. I've thought about therapy but I don't know.
BlueVeins · 22-25
-get away from those pictures by any means necessary
-allow yourself to fantasize about killing them as much as you have to to help you get over it
-find a creative outlet for your fury such as listening to angry music or writing stories where everyone suffers a lot and dies violently
SirEgoDeathTheFirst · 26-30, M
I'm sorry to hear that!:(
Relationships sucks. People are fucked up!
There is no secret recepy for this kind of things but there are some things that you could do.
First of all look at it as a lesson so you'll know in the future to avoid this type of people. No exception!
What I'm gonna say next might sound a bit extreme, but that's how I do it. If you don't loke yourself and take care for yourself who's gonna do it?!
Block that person on facebook, instagram, phone number, sms, whatsapp, anuthingelse that you can think of.
Stop talking to commun friends in case you have any because in the worst case they are going to talk shit about you to that person. 2nd scenario they are going to tell you shit about this ex-friend an to the ex-friend as well. That's why you need to stop talking to those friends. Loyal friends are really rare. Im just saying but maybe you are lucky, luckyer then me atleast.
Find new people, make new friends. How? Start a new hobby, get into it (it can be anything, chess, poker, ligue of legends, learn how to code, play guitar, ukulele, get into farm anunts, learn about the types of bulbs that are out there. You get the point, let me know if you need more ideas for hobbies lol! The thing is to keep yourself busy. Ofc is gonna be hard but yeah you have to keep it moving.
And most important: NEVER GET BACK TO THE PERSON THAT HURT YOU NO MATTER WHAT!

Hope made sense what I wrote, sorry for the mistakes
NiftyWhite · 46-50, F
I went through something similar with an ex bf. I closed the fb account and opened a new one. I hated how memories come up and how we had mutual friends and his family was on my fb. I just wanted a new start.

I considered moving/relocating but didn’t. I think it would have been helpful. He lived very close to me and that was hard to cope with.

I changed my clothes and my appearance as much as I could. Donated all my old clothes and went t a thrift store to get a new stash. Wanted a new start and this helped somehow. It was part of me that wasn’t also a part of him.

I was exhausting my friends and it seemed to be a “bad look” on me anyway always complaining and trying to cope so I found this place - this was great for venting and yet keeping public composure. Also I joined dating sites - not for dating, but for venting. I was honest about why I was there. Friendship only They were free and quite local and to this day, I have kept many friends who respect me and likewise. I just needed someone to talk to that never knew me, never knew him.

I didn’t find therapy was very useful. Mind you I was grieving a death at the same time so i had other issues too.

Do what you can to forget this person and erase any evidence from your surroundings and your life that they ever existed like belongings or gifts they gave you - BYE! Get rid of photos too. After that pass time in productive ways and keep busy. Keep a journal to vent to.
riseofthemachine · 41-45, M
Dont go therapy. All they'd want is your money .
Write down the situation on paper . You'll find a lot writing when you start and if you write it down it be no longer in your head for awhile and when it pops in again write it down until you have complete forgiveness. Forgiveness helps you and a person said to me a resentment is taken the poison and expecting the other person to die . Resentment are a waste of time .
My x teach me a lot and what she thought was never full trust in another human being for your happiness. That's where the resentment is coming from .
That would lead you into despair and a racing mind and it usually night time the mind gets louder, so my advice is write it down . It's there in black and white then and keep doing it until you have forgiveness and with that then you get wisdom and then dont fall into no more traps
Three words. Get Off Facebok. If you can 💜🌷
Ganon · 26-30, M
Try distracting yourself from said person and whatever entails. Social media, pics, etc. Distance yourself and spend time with your family or friends. I try drowning myself in good music. Hope this helps
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Nobody00 · F
Block the page with her photos it will help a lot in healing,to never see her face again
SW-User
I use them to keep me warm on cold nights.
iamnikki · 31-35, F
I'd suggest a good therapist
Get rid of them.
Poorly. I have an obsessive personality, which makes moving on as well as forgiveness a challenge
SW-User
I hit the gym. Every rep of every exercise my thought process is "I'm getting stronger to destroy them".

Don't get me wrong, I'm not going to attack anyone, I just use my anger to help me. I work it out of my system and I improve my physique.

 
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