How can I get my old friend to be friends with me again (no sugarcoating)? [I Need Advice]
So last week, we saw her and I ran to give her a hug, but she back off quickly and nodded her head. Wow I wasn’t expecting that reaction. Her granddad gave me a hug. He’s my dad’s best friend. We’ve known each other for a very long time and my dads known him since even before my sister was born. They met when my half brother was only a year old (1984).
Anyways they stopped by for a visit since it’s been six years! Her parents are his kids but anyways I tried to talk to her but she didn’t seem interested. Before we moved, we used to play with each other all the time. They moved to Washington State in 2014. I was 11 almost 12 and she was already 13. She’s 19 now. I asked her why is she ignoring me or barely talking to me. She said, “See that’s why I stopped talking to you. You’re overbearing, always telling people what to say and all that. Also you always tell people what they WANT to hear. That’s why we aren’t friends anymore. If you were a REAL friend, you would call it as you see it, not lie and sugarcoat shit. Frankly I didn’t even want to come.”
Wow that shocked me. I mean sometimes she will ask me for an honest opinion or answer and I didn’t wanna hurt her feelings so I sugarcoated it. She said I’m too much of a “YES” Person. She’s mean.
We talked through email but she stopped emailing me or answering me like three years ago.
She said something also very painful. She said, “To put it bluntly, I only came to see your dad, your brother, sister and some others. Just stay away from me.” They only stayed for three four hours and left back for their family. They only stayed for the weekend. Wow....I was HURT very bad. I stayed away from her. She was happy to see the others but not me! 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
I tried to email her but she didn’t respond?
Anyways they stopped by for a visit since it’s been six years! Her parents are his kids but anyways I tried to talk to her but she didn’t seem interested. Before we moved, we used to play with each other all the time. They moved to Washington State in 2014. I was 11 almost 12 and she was already 13. She’s 19 now. I asked her why is she ignoring me or barely talking to me. She said, “See that’s why I stopped talking to you. You’re overbearing, always telling people what to say and all that. Also you always tell people what they WANT to hear. That’s why we aren’t friends anymore. If you were a REAL friend, you would call it as you see it, not lie and sugarcoat shit. Frankly I didn’t even want to come.”
Wow that shocked me. I mean sometimes she will ask me for an honest opinion or answer and I didn’t wanna hurt her feelings so I sugarcoated it. She said I’m too much of a “YES” Person. She’s mean.
We talked through email but she stopped emailing me or answering me like three years ago.
She said something also very painful. She said, “To put it bluntly, I only came to see your dad, your brother, sister and some others. Just stay away from me.” They only stayed for three four hours and left back for their family. They only stayed for the weekend. Wow....I was HURT very bad. I stayed away from her. She was happy to see the others but not me! 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
I tried to email her but she didn’t respond?