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I’m 22. My dad doesn’t like me going to bars. Help!? [I Need Advice]

I’m 22. Tonight, my friend and I went to a bar to chat, have a couple of drinks, basically have girl time. We each had two drinks. We stayed by ourselves in the corner by security, for safety and social distancing, and we denied all the creeps that asked us to dance. I got home and told my parents where I’d been and my dad was passive aggressive and rude saying things like “why go to a bar to just talk?” And said “(my friend’s name) is something else. She has a boyfriend and takes you to a bar to pick up other guys.” And I told him that was absolutely untrue. And he’s all “why else would you go to a bar?” And I told him we just wanted to have a drink and unwind. He also was asking about what I had to drink and “why would I go all the way there just to talk.” I’m 22. I’m not irresponsible. I don’t leave my drink unattended, I don’t talk to people that I don’t want to, and I am aware of my surroundings. What’s so bad about me wanting to go to a club/bar!?
caesar7 · 61-69, M
I know dads are sometimes overprotective of their little girl but you are old enough to decide for yourself how to live your life. He should respect that.
A: While I agree with others saying you did nothing wrong and it's your dad that's the problem, Yo should know regardless of doing everything right (which you did, good for you) the worst can still happen.
@sabrinarose I would suggest asking your dad if he trusts you to make the right decisions.

If he says yes, then try having a calm conversation about going out drinking. Maybe compromise on some rules between the two of you.

If he says no, it may be time to move out on your own. You don't want that kind of person so close to you in life. Even if (or especially if) it's family.
sabrinarose · 26-30, F
@PolyamorousPlaymates I agree. Thank you! I’m trying to save up while I finish up my degree so I can have more independence financially.
@sabrinarose Best of luck to you and I hope you and your father can find a mutually satisfying common ground.
SoulAsylum · 31-35, M
Probably best to move out if you can.
sabrinarose · 26-30, F
I would, but I am still in school (which my parents are paying for.) and am currently looking for a second job to help save up for somewhere since I get out of school.@SoulAsylum
SW-User
Sorry but your Dad has a point 🤓
SW-User
Well that’s on your conscience. Good luck ✌🏻@sabrinarose
sabrinarose · 26-30, F
@SW-User Yep. It’s on my conscience that I did nothing wrong. ✌🏻
SW-User
lol righto, then you’ve answered your own question haven’t you 😌@sabrinarose
Madhatter · 31-35, M
Nothing. You're an adult. He doesn't have to like everything you do. It's your life. If he gets grumpy, that's on him.
CheshireCatalyst · 36-40, M
This says a lot about your dad's views on women, and nothing about you.

 
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