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Please help me! Is being too nice a good reason to reject someone? [I Need Advice]

I’m a very nice, sweet, good girl. I am sort of a goody two shoes, I tend to have expectations of people being nice and respect me (failed).
He flat out told me that I’m nice, but I’m way too nice. I talked to him earlier tonight and he seemed bored. He says he frankly finds me too agreeable, and also I make him do all the work by planning the day (virtual). He says I’m way too easy and easy is boring. He said, “You’re okay but you’re too nice. You always bug people to “be nice”, you agree with everything people say....sometimes, you don’t even stand up for yourself or have you own opinion. It’s okay to have an OPINION. I wish I didn’t have to drag it out of you. QUIT AGREEING WITH ME! You keep telling people that you’re nice which is creepy. Also you’re not being honest with yourself. You gotta push back a little! I like a girl that’s sweet but also challenges me. I like feisty, strong girls that aren’t afraid to be themselves and speak their minds and to put it bluntly, I can’t see myself with someone like you. No Layla. Besides I see you only as a friend anyways. Frankly I like your best friend because she’s confident, feisty, sassy and being herself, but she has a boyfriend. Plus she’s short.”
See that’s it right there! He likes shirt girls and he’s 6’5 or 6.
I was told I’m too passive aggressive.
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Adstar · 56-60, M
Well being passive aggressive is not nice...

If you are a nice girl otherwise remain a nice girl and eventually you will find a guy who appreciates a nice girl.. A lot of guys eventually get stressed out to the max dealing with hard to handle ""strong woman"" and then wish they had a nice girl.

Sadly it takes some guys 10 - 15 years to realize that dealing with crazy woman is just toxic.. But some guys have a bit more wisdom at a younger age and do admire nice girls..

But there is also the problem of nice girls also liking the bad boys.. Seems that a lot of woman are attracted to the thugs jerks and scumbags who treat them like dirt.. A lot of woman are strange that way,, Always chasing guys who are bad for them and later on in life lamenting their lack of "luck" with guys.. When luck had nothing to do with it.. They where attracted to the worst men and so ended up being kicked from this guy to the next guy like a football..